A Day in the Life – Buffalo, NY

Hollywood Housewife – a blogger I’ve very much enjoyed reading for several years now – challenged readers to take photos of their daily lives on Wednesday, Oct 22nd and post them to Instagram with the tag #OneDayHH.

I’ve completed several day-in-the-life posts in my twelve years of blogging, but it’s been a while since my last one. It’s interesting to look back on these posts because I’ve always done them while living in different locations.

My routine has changed quite a bit over the years. This entry shows a day in my life while I live and work in downtown Buffalo, NY.

(Note: Some of these photos were posted to my Instagram account, but I posted all of them on Flickr. Flickr allows me to embed photos here without that annoying border Instagram has.)

Here we go!

6:45am – Alarm goes off, I drink a big glass of water, take my daily pill to combat hypothyroidism, and get in the shower. (I wake up at 6:35 on the days I wash my hair since that takes a little more time.)

6:55am – I’m out of the shower and Paul’s alarm has gone off, so I climb back into bed for a few minutes for hugs. It’s a good start to the day.

7:00am – Brush teeth and apply makeup. I wear makeup every day but I’m not adventurous with my technique or color options. All of the makeup items I own are right here on the sink ledge.

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7:35am – Pack up my breakfast in the kitchen. For my work bag, I still use this freebie I received from my last job when I worked for Rosetta Stone in Arlington, VA.

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Before leaving the house, I take a CrockPot full of Pumpkin Turkey Chili from the fridge and turn it on so it’ll be ready in time for dinner. I prepared the ingredients the night before.

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7:45am – Walk to my workplace, which is about half a mile from home. I love my daily walk and it’s the one thing I’ll miss when my husband and I move out next month. (We’re buying our very first house!)

There’s some construction happening on Chippewa Street:

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This is a view of Main Street, which for many years has been for the sole use of the metro and pedestrians. The plan is to add vehicular traffic back to the street, which they’ve been working on for months.

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Beautiful leaves in western New York:

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7:55am – Arrive at work. Even though I sit in a cubicle, this is the most private space I’ve ever had. I love the high walls. If people want to talk to me, they have to come to my doorway.

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8:30am – Unpack a box of office supplies. I work as an executive assistant and order supplies periodically for our group.

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9:00am – Retrieve a cup of decaf coffee from the machine in the break room. The taste leaves much to be desired, but I drink it anyway.

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9:15am – Selfie in the bathroom mirror! Black pants, black tank top, sheer polka-dot shirt.

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9:45am – Answer a call on my cell phone from an unrecognized number. It’s my dentist!! (Let me clarify: It was the actual dentist. Not someone on his staff. I was shocked.) He was calling to check on me after a procedure I had at his office the day before. If you’re looking for a dentist in the Buffalo, NY area, I highly recommend Wood Dental. Dr. Wood and his staff are really phenomenal, with a high-tech office and late opening hours.

10:00am – Back to the break room to heat up my breakfast. Today I’m eating dinner leftovers (Cauliflower Puttanesca with sautéed green and red cabbage). I’m eating cabbage instead of pasta because I’m currently on Day 25 of a Whole30.

This is what the break room looks like. I like the large window that takes up one wall.

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11:30am – Bundle up in a hat, gloves, and fleece jacket to walk down the street and pick up food for a lunch meeting (it’s in the low 40’s outside…brrrr!). Destination: Salsarita’s. They’re not nearly as good as Chipotle but sometimes you have to go with proximity over quality.

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1:30pm – Walk home on my lunch break. This is really the only thing I’ll miss about leaving downtown to buy a house of our own. I’ll be about 5 miles from work so I’ll have to drive my car (or take a bus) instead of walking back and forth.

I’ve really enjoyed the luxury of walking home in the middle of a workday. I don’t have to lug my lunch containers around; I get an extra mile of exercise; and sometimes I’ll do dinner prep or other house-related things so they don’t have to be done later in the day.

When I walked by, these workmen were fixing a traffic signal:

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4:30pm – Leave work.

4:50pm – Arrive home and grab some books to return to the library. The largest location in the Buffalo system isn’t far away. I walk over with the books and my laptop and spend about 45 minutes there before returning home.

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6:00pm: – I don’t have any dinner prep tonight since I prepared the CrockPot in advance, but I look for future recipes to make in the paleo cookbooks I checked out from the library last week.

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7:45pm – Paul gets home from work. What a handsome guy!

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He watches the end of Jeopardy, we chat about our day, and when he starts watching something else at 8am I read blog posts on my laptop.

9:00pm – Time for Law & Order: SVU. This show and The Walking Dead are the only two I watch on a regular basis.

10:15pm – I had brushed and flossed my teeth after dinner so all I need to do is wash and moisturize my face before bed. I read a book on my phone for about 15 minutes before turning the light out at 10:30.

Nothing ultra-exciting happened today, but that’s the best time to do a day in the life post. No lunches with friends, after-work events, restaurant meals, or even midweek grocery trips. Hope you enjoyed the glimpse!

Reading Subject-Specific Blogs

While there are some bloggers I’ve read for many years, I go through phases where I read a bunch of blogs that focus on a particular subject – then delete most of them at a later date. I always end up keeping some that continue to entertain me, but there’s only so much time in a day to read blogs. We must be picky.

Here are some subject-specific blogs I’ve researched in the past year:

Personal finance blogs: I started reading these in late 2013. I have always been thrifty, but my interest in frugal living increased last year when I discovered Mr. Money Mustache. This early retiree is more hardcore about his spending habits and lifestyle than I am, but reading his archives gave me a lot to think about and I’ve remained more frugal-minded to this day.

In addition to his blog, I spent several months reading a bunch of personal finance bloggers. I kept up with many of them for a while, but once I obtained the knowledge I was looking for, I dropped most of them from my feed reader.

In January 2014, my husband and I started keeping a record of our spending for the first time. We use an Excel spreadsheet and input our purchases manually. We refer to it as our budget, but it’s really more of a spending record because we don’t allocate a certain amount of money per category or anything. I enjoy the recording process because it’s interesting to see our total spending month to month, as well as how much we spend in certain categories.

I started out reading over 20 finance blogs, but I’ve narrowed it down to about five. (Mr. Money Mustache remains, of course.)

Home decorating: I started researching home decorating blogs earlier this year when Paul and I got serious about buying our first house. I especially enjoyed reading the Vintage Revivals archives; this lady does a ton of DIY and scores most of her finds from thrift stores and Craigslist.

Our house-hunting endeavor was successful, and we’ve chosen a home. Our purchase has been delayed a bit (no fault of our own) and we’re still waiting to get the final word on our closing date, but we assume/hope it’ll happen by the end of October.

Before this, I’ve always lived in rentals (or with relatives), so this will be the first place that’s entirely ours to take care of and decorate. We’re very excited to move in.

Just like the finance blogs, I’m down to about five decorating blogs that I still follow.

Paleo and personal style: These blogs are my newest interest, although the subjects are admittedly dissimilar. I read paleo blogs because I’m most of the way through my second Whole30. I’ve eaten mostly gluten-free for close to three years due to an autoimmune thyroid condition, so paleo food bloggers tend to be a good resource. My favorite is Melissa; I’ve never made a recipe of hers I didn’t like.

As for the style bloggers, if you’d asked me last month if that subject interested me I would have said no. In addition to being frugal-minded (I haaaaaate shopping for clothes), I’ve just never really been interested in…style.

I don’t subscribe to fashion magazines, nor do I care what color is “in” this season. However, I’ve recently decided my wardrobe needs some help. I can present myself perfectly well in public, but there is generally no wow factor. I’m boring and safe and I don’t accessorize. I literally have three pair of earrings I wear on a regular basis and maybe three to five necklaces. I wear my wedding and engagement rings but no others. I own exactly one scarf. I own two pair of tights and both of them are black (one pair is fleece-lined because I live in Buffalo and it gets COLD here).

Unsurprisingly, my interest is in thrifty style. Specifically people who shop at thrift/consignment stores and look amazing, or purchase clothes on sale from easily-accessible stores – no haute couture, please.

My current fashion blogger inspiration comes from Janssen at Everyday Reading. I just discovered her blog last week but I’m intrigued by her random style posts – her blog isn’t entirely about clothing, which I like, but she’s good about fitting it in to her daily life.

Books Read in 2013

(I abandoned this blog for a while so my 2013 reading list didn’t get published here. I’m doing so now.)

ince 2003, I’ve posted a list of all the books I read that year. Previous lists can be found at the following links; the number in parentheses is the total number of books read: 2012 (66), 2011 (27), 2010 (47), 2009 (25), 2008 (34), 2007 (31), 2006 (110!), 2005 (45), 2004 (42), 2003 (41).

Total for 2013: 42

I divided the books into four categories: Highly Recommended (my favorites); Recommended (good but not must-reads); Okay (read only if interested in the subject matter); and Not Recommended.

I read mostly nonfiction. Fiction books are denoted with an asterisk (*) after them. I read more fiction than usual this year (six books out of the total 42), mostly because they were book club selections.

(Note: I also update my Goodreads account with each book and their rating as I finish them.)

Highly Recommended

1. Under the Banner of Heaven: A Story of Violent Faith, Jon Krakauer

2. Beyond Belief: My Secret Life Inside Scientology and My Harrowing Escape, Jenna Miscavige Hill

3. Behind the Beautiful Forevers: Life, Death, and Hope in a Mumbai Undercity, Katherine Boo

4. The Long Walk: A Story of War and the Life That Follows, Brian Castner

5. Between Two Worlds: My Life and Captivity in Iran, Roxana Saberi

6. Eighty Days: Nellie Bly and Elizabeth Bisland’s History-Making Race Around the World, Matthew Goodman

7. Loving Frank, Nancy Horan*

Recommended

8. In the Garden of Beasts: Love, Terror, and an American Family in Hitler’s Berlin, Erik Larson

9. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Rebecca Skloot

10. Yes, Chef: A Memoir, Marcus Samuelsson

11. The Psychopath Test: A Journey Through the Madness Industry, Jon Ronson

12. Them: Adventures with Extremists, Jon Ronson

13. The Men Who Stare at Goats, Jon Ronson

14. Going Clear: Scientology, Hollywood, and the Prison of Belief, Lawrence Wright

15. Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us, Michael Moss

16. Dirt Work: An Education in the Woods, Christine Byl

17. The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures, Anne Fadiman

18. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness, Kay Redfield Jamison

19. Running the Books: The Adventures of an Accidental Prison Librarian, Avi Steinberg

20. The Cure for Everything: Untangling Twisted Messages about Health, Fitness, and Happiness, Timothy Caulfield

21. Have Mother, Will Travel: A Mother and Daughter Discover Themselves, Each Other, and the World, Claire and Mia Fontaine

22. All That Is Bitter and Sweet, Ashley Judd

23. The Diving Bell and the Butterfly: A Memoir of Life in Death, Jean-Dominique Bauby

24. The Sweet Life in Paris: Delicious Adventures in the World’s Most Glorious – and Perplexing – City, David Lebovitz

25. Nine Years Under: Coming of Age in an Inner-City Funeral Home, Sheri Booker

26. Bossypants, Tina Fey

27. Season to Taste: How I Lost My Sense of Smell and Found My Way, Molly Birnbaum

28. What the Dog Saw: And Other Adventures, Malcolm Gladwell

29. City of Light, Lauren Belfer*

30. Buffalo Lockjaw, Greg Ames*

31. The Day the Falls Stood Still, Cathy Marie Buchanan*

32. Gone Girl, Gillian Flynn*

Okay

33. The Astronaut Wives Club, Lily Koppel

34. Does Jesus Really Love Me?: A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage in Search of God in America, Jeff Chu

35. Uncorked: My Journey Through the Crazy World of Wine, Marco Pasanella

36. Heads in Beds: A Reckless Memoir of Hotels, Hustles, and So-Called Hospitality, Jacob Tomsky

37. A Devil to Play: One Man’s Year-Long Quest to Master the Orchestra’s Most Difficult Instrument, Jasper Rees

38. Dinner: A Love Story, Jenny Rosenstrach

39. The Road to Santiago, Kathryn Harrison

40. Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy’s Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back, Todd Burpo

41. Buffalo Steel, Lizz Schumer*

Not Recommended

42. Funny in Farsi: A Memoir of Growing Up Iranian in America, Firoozeh Dumas

Books Read in 2012

(I abandoned this blog for a while so my 2012 reading list didn’t get published here. I’m doing so now.)

Since 2003, I’ve posted a list of all the books I read that year. Previous lists can be found at the following links; the number in parentheses is the total number of books read: 2011 (27), 2010 (47), 2009 (25), 2008 (34), 2007 (31), 2006 (110!), 2005 (45), 2004 (42), 2003 (41).

Total for 2012: 66

I read more this year than all previous years (except for 2006 when I had a 1.5 hour one-way commute when I worked in southern California for six months). A majority of the books I read in 2012 were on the Kindle and Overdrive apps on my smartphone — I borrow all of my e-books from the library, so they’re delivered wirelessly (and free!) to my phone.

Paul thinks I should read my e-books on a larger device, but I know I read more books on my phone than I would on an e-reader. My phone is small and easily transportable, so I pull it out in multiple situations where I wouldn’t otherwise be reading: standing in line at the grocery store, as a passenger in a car, or even waiting for the elevator in my building (in addition to normal reading situations like commuting to work on the Metro and lying on the sofa at home).

This year, I divided the books into four categories: Highly Recommended (my favorites); Recommended (good but not must-reads); Okay (read only if interested in the subject matter); and Not Recommended (those I finished either because they were quick reads and/or I didn’t have anything better available at the time).

You may notice that — except for #43 — all the books in this list are nonfiction.

(Note: I also update my Goodreads account with each book and their rating as I finish them.)

Highly Recommended – My Favorites

1. Born Round: A Story of Family, Food and a Ferocious Appetite, Frank Bruni

2. Losing My Religion: How I Lost My Faith Reporting on Religion in America and Found Unexpected Peace, William Lobdell

3. Open: An Autobiography, Andre Agassi

4. Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything, Joshua Foer

5. Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption, Laura Hillenbrand

6. The American Way of Eating: Undercover at Walmart, Applebee’s, Farm Fields and the Dinner Table, Tracie McMillan

7. Learning to Bow: Inside the Heart of Japan, Bruce Feiler

8. Beaten, Seared, and Sauced: On Becoming a Chef at the Culinary Institute of America, Jonathan Dixon

9. Sex on the Moon: The Amazing Story Behind the Most Audacious Heist in History, Ben Mezrich

10. Life, on the Line: A Chef’s Story of Chasing Greatness, Facing Death, and Redefining the Way We Eat, Grant Achatz

Recommended

11. Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon’s Journey into the Afterlife, Eben Alexander III, MD

12. Lucky Girl, Mei-Ling Hopgood

13. Bonobo Handshake: A Memoir of Love and Adventure in the Congo, Vanessa Woods

14. Fairy Tale Interrupted: A Memoir of Life, Love, and Loss, RoseMarie Terenzio

15. The Foremost Good Fortune, Susan Conley

16. The 100 Thing Challenge: How I Got Rid of Almost Everything, Remade My Life, and Regained My Soul, Dave Bruno

17. Alek: My Life from Sudanese Refugee to International Supermodel, Alek Wek

18. Why We Get Fat: And What to Do About It, Gary Taubes

19. Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life, Barbara Kingsolver

20. Big in China: My Unlikely Adventure Raising a Family, Playing the Blues, and Reinventing Myself in Beijing, Alan Paul

21. Burmese Lessons: A Love Story, Karen Connelly

22. Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail, Cheryl Strayed

23. Silver Like Dust: One Family’s Story of America’s Japanese Internment, Kimi Cunningham Grant

24. The Paleo Answer, Loren Cordain

25. Don’t Play in the Sun: One Woman’s Journey Through the Color Complex, Marita Golden

26. The Bucolic Plague: How Two Manhattanites Became Gentlemen Farmers, Josh Kilmer-Purcell

27. The Company We Keep: A Husband-and-Wife True-Life Spy Story, Robert and Dayna Baer

28. Leaving Church: A Memoir of Faith, Barbara Brown Taylor

29. The Blueberry Years: A Memoir of Farm and Family, Jim Minick

30. Punching In: One Man’s Undercover Adventures on the Front Lines of America’s Best-Known Companies, Alex Frankel

31. A Journey North: One Woman’s Story of Hiking the Appalachian Trail, Adrienne Hall

32. Paris in Love: A Memoir, Eloisa James

33. Spiced: A Pastry Chef’s True Stories of Trails by Fire, After-Hours Exploits, and What Really Goes on in the Kitchen, Dalia Jurgensen

34. Shucked: Life on a New England Oyster Farm, Erin Byers Murray

35. Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell

36. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, Susan Cain

37. Breaking Up with God: A Love Story, Sarah Sentilles

38. All the Money in the World: What the Happiest People Know About Getting and Spending, Laura Vanderkam

39. Tout Sweet: Hanging Up My High Heels for a New Life in France, Karen Wheeler

40. Spoon Fed: How Eight Cooks Saved My Life, Kim Severson

41. Talking with My Mouth Full: My Life as a Professional Eater, Gail Simmons

42. A Life Without Limits: A World Champion’s Journey, Chrissie Wellington

43. Volumes 1-7 of the Walking Dead graphic novels (a gift from Paul from Christmas 2011), which I’m counting as one book since they’re quicker to read.

Okay – Read if Interested in the Subject Matter

44. The House at Royal Oak: Starting Over and Rebuilding a Life One Room at a Time, Carol Eron Rizzoli

45. Living Oprah: My One-Year Experiment to Walk the Walk of the Queen of Talk, Robyn Okrant

46. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, Steven Pressfield

47. Voluntary Simplicity: Toward a Way of Life That Is Outwardly Simple and Inwardly Rich, Duane Elgin

48. Living Well with Hypothyroidism: What Your Doctor Doesn’t Tell You, Mary J. Shomon

49. The Feast Nearby, Robin Mather

50. Brandwashed: Tricks Companies Use to Manipulate Our Minds and Persuade Us to Buy, Martin Lindstrom

51. The G-Free Diet: A Gluten-Free Survival Guide, Elisabeth Hasselbeck

52. The Cowboy Way: Seasons of a Montana Ranch, David McCumber

53. I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts On Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

54. The Escape Artists: True Stories of People Who Turned Their Obsessions Into Professions, Joshua Piven

55. A Tiger in the Kitchen: A Memoir of Food and Family, Cheryl Tan

56. I Remember Nothing: And Other Reflections, Nora Ephron

57. Kicking Up Dirt: A True Story of Determination, Deafness, and Daring, Ashley Fiolek

58. Buffalo Gal, Laura Pedersen

59. Ali in Wonderland: And Other Tall Tales, Ali Wentworth

60. How to Be a Woman, Caitlin Moran

61. Practically Perfect in Every Way: My Misadventures Through the World of Self-Help and Back, Jennifer Niesslein

Not Recommended

62. White Jacket Required: A Culinary Coming-of-Age Story, Jenna Weber

63. Happier at Home, Gretchen Rubin

64. Cuba Diaries: An American Housewife in Havana, Isadora Tattlin

65. This Is Not the Story You Think It Is: A Season of Unlikely Happiness, Laura Munson

66. If You Lived Here, I’d Know Your Name: News from Small-Town Alaska, Heather Lende

I’m Back

This blog feels like home. It’s been around a long time, even though I’ve neglected it for most of the past three years. Instead of writing here, I started two blogs with more specific subject matter – gluten free cooking and living in Buffalo, NY.

I started new blogs because, at the time, this space felt so full of personal subject matter that turning a corner and writing about something more specific – like food, for instance – seemed entirely out of character. Since turning my back on this space, I’ve realized there are subjects that don’t easily lend themselves to a food blog…or the places I visit in Buffalo. Sometimes I want to write about books I’ve read or capture a random day in my life with photos.

I started this blog shortly after I turned 22 in 2002. Twelve years later, I’m now 34. There’s a lot of history on these pages.

Over the years, I wrote about ugly things like unhealthy relationships and eating disorders. I wrote about wonderful things that happened, like meeting my now-husband. There were many posts I put quite a lot of time and thought into, like the weekly column I wrote for BlogHer for three years (2007-2010).

This space captured my life events for at least ten years. From 2002-2012, I wrote about driving solo cross-country; living in Amsterdam for five months on a college semester abroad; graduating from college; living in southern California; and moving to Washington, DC. I had multiple jobs, apartments, dates, and friends. Some of those things lasted longer than others.

My life is different now. I live in an entirely new part of the country. Paul and I got married. If all goes as planned, we’ll be buying our first home later this month. I still don’t have kids, but the topic is under consideration.

For some reason, a few days ago I got an urge to write here again. Here I am.

Announcement: New Blog

This Saturday is my 32nd birthday. I told Paul I wanted to go out of town instead of having a party, so he’s taking me to Annapolis, MD for the weekend. Although Annapolis is only about 30 miles away — and we’ve lived in the DC area for almost 6 years (me) and 7 years (him) — neither of us has ever visited before. I’m glad we’ll get to experience it together for the first time.

Turning 32 means that I’ve been blogging for almost 10 years. Wow. I was such an entirely different person when I was 22.

Although I haven’t updated this website in six months, I’ve been blogging somewhere else. I decided a few months ago that I’d like to start writing again, but I wanted to focus more on my cooking efforts. It’s a departure from what I’ve always posted about here, but it just seemed like I had too much history to start over on this blog with a brand new topic — plus, I was tired of having my first name front and center in the web address. So there were a lot of reasons for the switch.

If you’d like to visit me at my new blog, you can find me at Naturally Minimalist.

This blog will remain active as well, at least for the time being.

The Great Cohabitation Adventure

When my boyfriend and I made the decision to move in together, I volunteered to help him pack up his old apartment. I am experienced with this task; I have lived in five different places since I moved to the Washington, DC area five years ago.

I told Paul I was happy to help him pack the apartment he’d been living in for the past six years, but I did give him a warning in advance: part of my job would be to question the necessity of his keeping certain items, but he was free to veto me at any time. I am a fan of getting rid of items I no longer use or consider important (I take a donation to Goodwill every time I move, but I still think I have more belongings than I need).

Our system worked well, for the most part. He was disappointed about getting rid of his coffee table (we ended up retaining most of my living room furniture and put his furniture in the office/guest room), and there are a few small items he agreed to part with during The Great Apartment Purge 2011 that he has since wished he’d held on to. However, we made it through the process with minimal trouble and we are both satisfied with the result.

The move occurred one month ago today, over the first Saturday in December. It took a few weeks to get completely unpacked (our new apartment is located in the same building as my old one so I can’t complain about the new commute) and we still have some pictures to hang, but for the most part, we are done.

We both held on to some things we don’t technically need, which means we now have duplicate items in our newly combined household. We have two complete sets of pots and pans. We are using my silverware, but his is packed in a large Ziploc bag not far away. We have three kitchen shelves crowded with coffee cups, glasses, and beer mugs…for two people to use. We also have two flat-screen televisions. I assume these extra items will figure themselves out – or we’ll decide which ones we use most often and donate the rest – the longer we live together.

Most importantly, living with Paul is easy. It’s fun, it’s great, it’s right, and I’m looking forward to spending 2012 and beyond as part of this new joint household.

Books I Read in 2011

These are the 27 books I read in 2011. (Previous lists can be found here: 2010, 2009, 2008, 2007, 2006, 2005, 2004, 2003)

The books are listed in the order I read them, oldest first, except for the 5 fiction books which I listed separately at the bottom. My favorite books were #’s 1, 6, 9, 16, 19, 22, and 25.

Nonfiction:

1. Packing for Mars: The Curious Science of Life in the Void, Mary Roach

2. Stretch: The Unlikely Making of a Yoga Dude, Neal Pollack

3. unSweetined: A Memoir, Jodie Sweetin

4. Hoda: How I Survived War Zones, Bad Hair, Cancer, and Kathie Lee, Hoda Kotb

5. Dreaming in Chinese: Mandarin Lessons In Life, Love, And Language, Deborah Fallows

6. Blowing My Cover: My Life as a CIA Spy, Lindsay Moran

7. Psychic: My Life in Two Worlds, Sylvia Browne

8. How Did You Get This Number, Sloane Crosley

9. The Dirty Life: A Memoir of Farming, Food, and Love, Kristin Kimball

10. Chocolate & Vicodin: My Quest for Relief from the Headache that Wouldn’t Go Away, Jennette Fulda

11. I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway, Tracy McMillan

12. Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture, Peggy Orenstein

13. Grindhopping: Building a Rewarding Career Without Paying Your Dues, Laura Vanderkam

14. Committed: A Love Story, Elizabeth Gilbert

15. The Wilder Life: My Adventures in the Lost World of Little House on the Prairie, Wendy McClure

16. Blood, Bones & Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef, Gabrielle Hamilton

17. SEAL Team Six: Memoirs of an Elite Navy SEAL Sniper, Howard E. Wasdin

18. My Year with Eleanor, Noelle Hancock

19. Sideways on a Scooter: Life and Love in India, Miranda Kennedy

20. Nothing Daunted: The Unexpected Education of Two Society Girls in the West, Dorothy Wickenden

21. Across Many Mountains: A Tibetan Family’s Epic Journey from Oppression to Freedom, Yangzom Brauen

22. An Unquenchable Thirst: Following Mother Teresa in Search of Love, Service, and an Authentic Life, Mary Johnson

Fiction

23. Dancing for Degas, Kathryn Wagner

24. I Capture the Castle, Dodie Smith

25. Alice I Have Been, Melanie Benjamin

26. Half Broke Horses: A True-Life Novel, Jeannette Walls

27. The Help, Kathryn Stockett

One Year Ago Today

My boyfriend and I are celebrating our one-year anniversary today. I’m so lucky we got this far — we almost blew it last year.

Paul and I met a few weeks after my 30th birthday in June 2010. I was hanging out in the basement of Capitol Lounge to celebrate a friend’s engagement (he was there with a friend; not part of my group). We went out twice over the next several weeks, but due to various complications — both of us having people in our lives that we needed to deal with before starting a serious relationship with someone else — we just…fizzled out. It’s kind of scary how easy it was. Paul invited me out for a third date that would have taken place on a weekend night in July; I told him I had something else to do; I sent him a text on Monday morning to see how his weekend had gone; he didn’t respond. And I never followed-up.

But I didn’t delete his number from my phone. Over the next several months, I ended things for good with the other guy, re-joined Match.com, and went on a few dates with completely unmemorable people. I thought about contacting Paul on numerous occasions, but something always held me back. With other guys I’d dated — especially someone I’d only been out with twice — I never would have contacted them again after such a long time. I thought that if I dated someone and it didn’t work out, I was supposed to forget about them. Move on.

In late October 2010, I eschewed that rule and decided to contact Paul again. I didn’t want to limit myself to a text and I didn’t have his email address, so I looked him up on Facebook and sent him a message. He responded the same day. He was friendly, glad to hear from me, and didn’t bring up the fact that we hadn’t been in touch for months.

We exchanged emails over the next week and finally met for our third date on a random Thursday night after work — November 4, 2010. We now refer to our first two dates as Paul/Zan 1.0 and everything that’s happened in the past year as Paul/Zan 2.0.

November 2010 to November 2011 has been the best year of my life, and I know next year (and beyond) will be just as memorable.

Paul and Zan

(Isn’t he handsome? I’m a lucky, lucky girl.)

I Went to Buffalo, NY

Last week on September 1st, this blog turned nine years old. When I originally started this blog on September 1st of 2002, I was preparing to set out on my first round-trip cross-country drive from Virginia to California.

Nine years later, on September 1st of 2011, I was in a car, traveling from Washington, DC to my boyfriend’s hometown of Buffalo, NY. We spent a long weekend there and I had a terrific time. I met all kinds of wonderful people and saw all kinds of cool places, like…

…the Connecticut Street Armory
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…Delaware Park at sunset…
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…and Niagara Falls at night.
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Additional photos can be found in my Buffalo photoset on Flickr.