Just over a week ago, I went on a date. I don’t use online dating sites, so it seemed fitting that this guy contacted me through my MySpace profile. We corresponded through email, and then met to see a movie (I’ve already mentioned that I saw Miami Vice), and had dinner.
I try to be respectful of other people’s privacy and wouldn’t write about someone I was currently dating. Since I never told this guy about my website and I’m not planning to go out with him again, I figure the subject is fair game.
Indecisive: At dinner, he couldn’t make up his mind about what he wanted to order. He had been to the restaurant once before, and he kept saying how much he liked what he’d eaten the first time he was there—but he couldn’t remember exactly what it was. I was ready to order when the waitress came around, which by that time was her second time around because he’d previously told her that he needed more time to decide. Then he proceeded to play 20-questions with the waitress to ascertain if she could figure out what it was that he’d eaten in the past. What I really wanted to say was, “Just choose something that looks good! Who cares if it’s not exactly what you had the first time? It’ll be fine!” But I was polite and didn’t say anything.
Unfocused: There were a few instances where I would say something, and then not long afterward he would ask me a question that made it obvious he hadn’t been paying attention to what I was saying. He’s also a really sociable guy—which is great—but he has this habit of striking up conversations with random people. It’s okay to be nice to people…but is it asking too much for a guy to pay a little bit more attention to me while on a first date? This is the time to make a good impression.
Lest it appear that I’m being too picky (”He’s too indecisive! He’s not listening to me! Wahhhh!”), let me just say that these first two examples are not automatic dating deal-breakers. But since I already had these things in mind when the third example rolled around, you might understand where I’m coming from. Read on.
Buys Via*gra over the internet: Oh no, I am not joking. We were in his car after dinner and he was driving me back to the movie theater to get my car. Segueing from an unrelated topic of conversation, he casually mentioned that he had asked his doctor to write him a prescription for Via*gra. I laughed, because I thought he was joking. But he wasn’t. So I stopped laughing, because I thought he might possibly have some kind of…dysfunction…that would warrant his asking a doctor for help. But no, that wasn’t it either—he just thought it would be “interesting.”
When his doctor refused to write the prescription—as it wasn’t medically necessary—this guy proceeded to, yes, buy it illegally off the internet. He spent several hundred dollars and received thirty pills—which, according to him, he had not used yet. He didn’t ask me outright to experiment with these pills with him, but he did keep going on and on about it for longer than I thought was necessary. He even asked me at one point if I thought him buying these pills was weird, and I said, “Um…yes.”
Now this could very well just be me, but in my opinion there are certain things that you probably shouldn’t talk about on a first date. If he wants to be adventurous, fine—he’s not hurting anybody. (At least not yet.) I’m sure there are plenty of people who feel comfortable talking about stuff like this—or beyond—but it’s not my style.
So after not dating for a while, this was the result of my first foray back into the dating-arena. Who knows? This installment might become part of a continuing saga of “Advice for guys on what not to do on a date,” but I’m kind of hoping that’s not the case.
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I know how you feel ALL TOO WELL. The amount of sheer stupidity out there is mind-boggling, but remember, there are sane, nice guys out there.
Remind me to tell you about the guy who tried to pick my nose…
Okay, you never told me it was a date. But I think you’re instincts are right. Dude who buys Viagra for fun? Up to no good. (Up…heh)
Nice! He sounds like a total prize. Here’s hoping your dates get less…bizarre!
Oh no. Men!
LOL @ what Chris said
But I agree, buying Viagra for fun is really weird. To talk about it on a first date is even weirder. NEXT! 
I thought if I mentioned Viagra and you were hot, you’d ask me to slam it down right on the table. Since you didn’t, I didn’t.
That’s right, just laugh at me!
That guy is pathetic!
You may want to reconsider online dating. I have two good friends who have found their partner for life over the internet and are now happily married with children.
(For some people this outcome may be a horror scenario but I’m definitely not surmising you fall into this category)
haha…okay…seriously, if i were you, sitting with him in that car, i wouldn’t have stopped laughing! and then, i’d just drive myself home and never see him again, ever! i once dated a guy who told me all about his “first” time, on our first date. needless to say, i never answered his calls after that!
and online dating is not all that bad. i met my best friend on one of those sites, and 3 years later, we are now happily married!
What a FREAK!
So you can sell prescription drugs on eBay? Cause I have an unused bottle of Vicoden here from my wisdom teeth removal. How much might that go for?
Kidding.
I don’t think it was eBay, because he had to order it from a foreign country. But you never know…
I like the “NEXT” comment. Dating can be sort of like that MTV show. We all need to know/learn when to say “NEXT” and move on. (Like when someone wants to use Viagra on the first date…wierdO)
Whoa!
Advice for guys on what not to do might be very useful.
(but that one seems to me to be a no-brainer!)
I used to work as a pharmacy technician and we had a male customer who drove over 20 miles in a bad snowstorm to get to the store on a Saturday afternoon JUST to pick up his Viagra refill. Guess he was planning on being snowed in for the weekend and wanted to make sure he’d have something to do. Men can be pretty weird about this whole Viagra thing. What really used to piss me off was the insurance companies who would cover Viagra for men but not pay for birth control pills for women. It’s like: “We’ll pay for the stuff that might GET you pregnant whether you like it or not, but not the stuff to PREVENT pregnancy when you don’t want to be pregnant”. How twisted is THAT?
Janet- are they 20mg pills ? I can sell those in my hood $10/pill. If you go to the dentist again, hit me up yo. we’ll work something out. ;-0
How many ‘frogs’ did I warn you about???