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VALENTINE’S DAY: LOVE AND HATE

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer)

I’ve never had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day, so I’ve never really done anything special to celebrate. There have been card exchanges with friends and chocolates from my parents when I was little — but the holiday has never been a big deal to me.

The upside is that I don’t get depressed when this “holiday of love” rolls around. I treat it as just another day. But, unlike me, there are many people out there who have strong feelings: the thought of Valentine’s Day can easily bring about a love/hate response.

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15 Comments

  • Reply Sweet February 13, 2007 at 10:13 am

    Yeah V-Day usually doesn’t bother me either. But considering I’m now the only single one in a house of four it might be a little tougher this year!

  • Reply Barry Leiba February 13, 2007 at 10:51 am

    Comments on some of the statistics, here (I don’t know if I can use blockquote in the comments, and there’s no “preview” button for me to test it with):

    «More at-home pregnancy tests are sold in March than in any other month.»

    Ooh, here we have the old fallacy of equating sex with love, rather than using them to complement each other. “Hey, Hon, we’re supposed to be romantic today. Let’s have sex.” Noooot really the right approach.

    «Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.»

    I suspect that women purchase approximately 85% of all greeting cards, of any variety, so I wouldn’t put too much into this stat.

    «One billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making it the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas.»

    Yay. Hallmark® wins.

    And that’s exactly the problem I have with V-Day (I’d call it “VD”, but that has other connotations, alas): Hallmark wins. It’s just a commercial extravaganza, lining the pockets of those who sell greeting cards, chocolates, and flowers, with no redeeming value. (N.B. I have nothing against purveyors of those items, and they need to make a buck too, but really….)

    People who love each other should celebrate that all the time, not just on one day.

    People who want a “special day” should use their own, making it truly special. Why should one want to do it on the same day as everyone else does? Do you want “your song” to be the same as everyone else’s too?

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    That said… Happy V-Day, Zan. And to the rest of you reading this as well.

  • Reply Barry Leiba February 13, 2007 at 10:57 am

    I’m just going to test blockquote in a comment:

    …the thought of Valentine’s Day can easily bring about a love/hate response.

    Delete this test comment, if you like.

  • Reply RA February 13, 2007 at 11:00 am

    These are really interesting tidbits. I wouldn’t say that I love or hate Valentine’s Day, but I think it’s pretty arbitrary, at best. It doesn’t coincide with anything significant for my husband or me, so it’s kind of random. It’s more of an excuse to inject some sweetness into the daily grind, at least for me. I don’t make it a habit to bake cupcakes, you know?

    I read elsewhere (and confirmed on Wikipedia!) that Feb. 14 is also the anniversary of Arizona being admitted as the 48th state. Go, Arizona!

  • Reply mikaela February 13, 2007 at 11:00 am

    Interesting article about the chemical-laden flowers. I’ve heard great things about http://www.organicbouquet.com/

    March being the most popular month for tests makes sense, not just because of Sweetest Day, either. We’re all cooped up inside, wanting to stay snuggly and warm 🙂

  • Reply jen February 13, 2007 at 1:32 pm

    i’m pretty much with RA – i don’t love or hate valentine’s day. i love pink and hearts and girly things and sweet treats, so i like that part of valentine’s day. sometimes i send all my friends those cheap valentines we used to give out in school or put out a bowl of conversation hearts for my co-workers — it’s a fun excuse to do cutesy stuff like that. i had fun making my partner a homemade card last night and it was fun to get out the construction paper and scissors and glue stick. we usually don’t do valentine’s presents but sometimes we’ll go somewhere romantic as a combination valentine’s day/anniversary celebration (our anniversary is the first week in february) to take advantage of the long president’s day weekend.

    i don’t like commercialism in general, but valentine’s day has nothing on christmas in that regard. for someone like me whose car radio is tuned to public radio and whose tv-watching is dedicated to tivo, i barely even notice the valentine’s commercialism.

  • Reply Rhea February 13, 2007 at 1:49 pm

    Wow, I had no idea that many women sent flowers to themselves. That is freaky.

  • Reply janet February 13, 2007 at 3:04 pm

    I’ve had my fair share of both coupled and singled V-days. Either way I don’t really care about it. Hubby and I agree to not exchange gifts and I made him promise not to get me flowers (I asked that he put $20 into our house savings fund instead).

    However, I will use it as an excuse to eat chocolate!! 🙂

  • Reply Maryam in Marrakesh February 13, 2007 at 4:36 pm

    I just posted on this, too. And I left a gift for my husband on my blog. But it cost me nothing but some baring of the soul:-)

  • Reply sharah February 13, 2007 at 4:44 pm

    Valentine’s Day? Where?

    We don’t celebrate V-Day, and never have. I actually surprised C last year with flowers and dinner out because I knew it would be the one day of the year he would NOT be expecting anything.

    The commercialization is why we really just ignore it — I don’t see any reason to give Hallmark my hard-earned $4 for a card.

  • Reply Elissa February 13, 2007 at 6:28 pm

    Well I’ll be single tomorrow for the first times in years. On the upside I get my 2006 bonus on this weeks pay check (which gets direct deposited tomorrow) so at least I have something to celebrate by myself. And no sharing!!
    I’ve always been against buying/receiving the normal V-day gifts like cards and flowers. Why spend $80 having a dozon roses delived when I can get a new pair of jeans for that price? Why spend $3-5 dollars on a huge frilly card that you will read once and toss….I know some people do really care about them but they do nothing for me. I’m ok with chocolate and other gifts that last forever! But as some of you said it is important to love each other EVERY day…not just when the calendar tells us to.

    Happy Hugs & Kisses day Zan!!

  • Reply an9ie February 13, 2007 at 7:24 pm

    Thank you for quoting me, Zandria! I am so chuffed to see myself up there 🙂 Just a little scene of Valentine’s Day from the other side of the looking glass. There are a lot of florists out there with burning eyes and pricked thumbs who haven’t had any sleep since yesterday.

    But who needs to wait for a valentine to celebrate how wonderful you are? Buy yourselves a big box of gourmet chocolates and a sweet-smelling posy – you deserve it!

  • Reply urban vegan February 13, 2007 at 9:49 pm

    Interesting heart-beats. I love the concept of V-Day, once I get past the commercialism.

  • Reply ally bean February 14, 2007 at 6:47 am

    I’m with Nurse M. Why limit expressions of love to one day per year? And why does everyone think that expressions of love mean things?

    I’m happily married and I don’t know that we’ve ever done much of anything to celebrate this day. But I do know that we’ve done lots of things to celebrate every day. I don’t want stinky flowers and dopey cards. I want emotional support and laughs. Where’s the holiday for that idea?

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