Comments on: Love: Is It Sneaky or Sudden?

By: BalkanBeauty

BalkanBeauty — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 03:27:24 +0000

I was bored and googled my SN, and found this blog. I’m really flattered that my moment of clarity helps others understand what love is. I’ve moved away from that agapic style of love (unconditional) towards a different outlook however.

…but who knows….I still havent fallen in love with someone since that last relationship.

By: jen

jen — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:36:21 +0000

i strongly disagree with JG (as told by RA) – i think it matters a whole lot whether a couple is “in love” whether or not they love each other. i loved my ex-husband very much when i divorced him and i still do. love itself is not enough to build a shared life on.

out of all the quotes and comments i agree with balkanbeauty the most. but i would add that it’s not just about caring more about the other person than yourself but also that your feelings for the person are unconditional – you accept and care for the person exactly as he or she is. i don’t believe real love can be conditional.

i have said i was in love many times, but i remember the exact moment that i realized what REAL love is, and realized that i had never really been in love before.

By: geeky

geeky — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 14:09:52 +0000

I can’t think of any lightning bolt moment where I just KNEW I was going to marry my husband. But, I do know this – the weekend that I first met him, I immediately felt drawn to him in a way I’d never felt with anyone else. We have photos from that weekend, and in them we look like we were dating, even though we didn’t actually start dating for another 5 or 6 months after that. At our wedding, his mom saw one of the photos from that weekend and described it as “when they first started dating”, and we both cracked up! No one believed us that we weren’t dating in the photo.

By: RA

RA — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 13:50:46 +0000

Um, yes. JG loves to tell the story about how, in college, before we were dating, I asked him sarcastically if we would ever date. He was sheepish like, “Well, I think so, maybe,” but I was all, “WHATEVER! That could never happen!”

Ahem. I stand corrected.

By: janet

janet — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 03:50:16 +0000

Janet’s comment (other Janet) is way cooler than mine! good stories!

I would say that we had like at first sight, even lust at first sight, and instant compatibility at first sight, but love? I don’t think so. It was about a year in before we realized it was for real, I guess. He was coming out of another serious but toxic relationship, so he wasn’t ready for love at first sight anyway. Doesn’t mean he didn’t come around in the end, though :)

Also, he is 5 yrs older, so he had to realize that whatever the numbers were, I am not THAT much younger.

By: Malia

Malia — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 03:23:18 +0000

It snuck up on me, but his mom knew. She said that when I came to the door the first time, asking if he was home, she shut the door and said my name, with their last name on the end, and she knew we were going to be married.

Malia

By: Janet

Janet — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 22:45:10 +0000

I knew I was going to marry Will within 15 minutes of meeting him, before I knew his name. Not that I loved him, but I knew I was going to marry him.

I was with two friends when I met him (in Walmart) and I told my friends, “I’m going to marry that guy”. Very weird.

One of my friends said, I do not lie, “Him? He’s OLD.”

(He was 24, I was 19.)

Also: there was an earthquake when we first kissed. Seriously. We do live in Southern California, but STILL.