Comments on: Surviving the Quarter-Life Crisis

By: golden child

golden child — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 05:54:05 +0000

I’m having a hardcore quarter life crisis right now. I turned 25 back in March. I’ll be graduating school with a BA in Graphic Design in a few months. However, the poor state of the economy is exacerbating my personal crisis. I know finding a job in my field is going to be very difficult. I have no real experience in my field. I don’t know what the fuck I’m going to do upon graduation. I still live at home with my mom and she doesn’t have a job. I couldn’t get a girl that I wanted If my life depended on it. I hate to say it, but I have come to terms with me being a loser.

I’m trying my hardest to get my act together and grow up. But my turbulent adolescence set the stage for my quarter life crisis. When I was a teenager I was headed for prison. My extracurricular activities in high school involved grand theft auto, concealed deadly weapons, drug selling, underaged drinking, weed smoking, probation meetings, fighting and truancy. When I graduated from high school all my friends were hustlers making money selling drugs. But my mother basically forced me to enroll in community college. After three years at a community college and two years at a university, I left my wild days behind me. But now I face the struggle of carving a niche in an uptight whitewashed corporate world.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 18:31:57 +0000

i think i’m having quarter life crisis now. i have all these dreams and plans but i can’t seem to achieve them. i can’t find a job that fits me (and my college degree), i don’t have any savings, i don’t even have a boyfriend. i have all these frustrations and i can’t seem to go forward. :( will all these worries really go away in time?

By: LJ

LJ — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 21:25:38 +0000

Oh and more importantly, to second others… good to see you’re so happy with where you are and with things in your new job. That’s the key take-away here!

By: LJ

LJ — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 21:24:56 +0000

Hmmm I haven’t heard so much about the quarter life crisis. I’ve encountered more issues with the 30 threshhold guy freak out in DC. Now that’s the annoying one. Don’t quite get it… that’s my personal mystery =)

By: Nathan

Nathan — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 00:37:35 +0000

Zandria – great blog. I really am happy you’re in a great place!

By: Teresa

Teresa — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 23:40:49 +0000

I enjoyed reading everyone’s post. Everyone’s story is so different. I myself have been there too! I finished college and didn’t know what to do. I finally made a career change and that made all the difference in the world.
Zan – I’m glad to hear you are so happy where you at:)

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 21:02:24 +0000

At the age of 27, I am still in the midst of my quarter life crisis. When I was younger, I always said I would be married with my first child by the age of 25. (neither of which has happened) I am also dealing with not being done with school yet, not knowing where exactly I want to live, and all of those other “I’ll do this by this age” type things. My quarter life crisis also involves more personal issues, like struggling with certain issues most people I know don’t, and trying to focus on how I feel about myself and not what others think, among others. I don’t see my quarter life crisis ending soon, but maybe by 30?

By: mikkie

mikkie — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 18:52:01 +0000

Very recognizalbe indeed. Went through it myself, think I have the best part behind me, though there I still have my moments.

And i agree with the rest, acceptance is the main part of the solution. Realizing that you should choose what makes you feel good and happy and not what society, people around you and whoever else feels you should be doing. Anything you do is worthwile, as long as your heart is in it,

I wrote (a totally not-worthy-of-remembering) post about it over a year ago, starting with a quote from Reality Bites (very veyr quotable movie, especially for a QLC). It captures the problem rather nicely I think.

“Lelaina:: I just donâ€™t understand why things just canâ€™t go back to normal at the end of the half hour like on the Brady Bunch or something.

Troy:: Well, â€˜cause Mr. Brady died of AIDS. Things donâ€™t turn out like that.

Lelaina:: I was really gonna be something by the age of 23.

Troy:: Honey, the only thing you have to be by the age of 23 is yourself.

Lelaina:: I donâ€™t know who that is anymore.

Troy:: I do. And we all love her. I love her. She breaks my heart again and again but I love her.”

And I also love this one, just to put it into perspective.

“Lelaina: Well, I know this sounds cornball but I’d like to somehow make a difference in people’s lives.

Troy: And I… I would like to buy them all a Coke.”

By: been there, done that

been there, done that — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:56:25 +0000

Gosh, I thought I was the only one who went through that. I could of swore that everyone else KNEW what they wanted out of life.

This sentence couldn’t of said it better, but it took me many more years and ‘finally’ leaving my EX to get there:

“But at some point I realized that I have reached a level of acceptance.”

It’s too bad life doesn’t come with an instruction book, cause I certainly would of done a better job in life had I had some sort of guidance, i.e. a parent that actually parented.

I know I spent 20+ years with a man I should of looked the other way, but it made me who I am today and I like that!

By: Rambler

Rambler — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:36:32 +0000

I think I am in the middle of it, the biggest problem so far has been priorities, and how they are changing fast.