I’ve decided that I’m never getting married. The reason is, if I do, my husband might decide he no longer has to contribute his share to the household chores. If I live with someone, there’s a higher probability that our non-legal status will keep him on his toes. Or so this study seems to be saying.
I consider this to be a “feel-good study,” because any adult who reads it can relate to it in some way. It attempts to offer an explanation for why some men do less housework after they get married, but in actuality it seems to be designed to make all groups feel better. For instance:
Singles and unmarried couples who don’t want to get married: “Yes! This is yet another reason why I’m glad I’m not married!”
Unmarried men: “Oh, good. Once I get married, I’ll have an excuse to cut back on the amount of housework I do. This study justifies my future life of slackerdom!”
Married women: “That’s right; he has been doing less housework since we got married. Now I know why.”
Married men who DON’T do their share of housework: “Yeah, that’s right. I’m not alone. This makes me feel better because now there’s no reason for me to change.”
Married men who DO their share of housework: “I’m more helpful than most of my male counterparts. I’m such a wonderful guy. What a lucky woman my wife is.” (Puffs chest.)
There should be negotiations and compromises involved with this process. I can’t see anyone not getting married because they were worried their future husband might start slacking in his cleaning duties.
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