Monthly Archives: December 2007

Books I Read In 2007

Compared to the 110 books I read in 2006, the list for this year is pretty small. (The reason for all the extra reading last year? Commuting for six months to a job that took at least an hour and a half on public transportation each way.) Previous reading lists can be found here: 2006, 2005, 2004, 2003.

The books that I liked best have a double-asterisk after the author’s name (**).

Nonfiction:

1) Lucky Man (AUDIOBOOK), by Michael J. Fox **

2) One L: The Turbulent True Story of a First Year at Harvard Law School (AUDIOBOOK), by Scott Turow **

3) Ivy Briefs: True Tales of a Neurotic Law Student, by Martha Kimes

4) Falling Leaves: The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter, by Adeline Yen Mah

5) Girlbomb: A Halfway Homeless Memoir, by Janice Erlbaum

6) Let Me Go (AUDIOBOOK), by Helga Schneider

7) The Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid (AUDIOBOOK), by Bill Bryson **

8 ) My Invented Country (AUDIOBOOK), by Isabel Allende

9) The Nasty Bits: Collected Varietal Cuts, Usable Trim, Scraps, and Bones, by Anthony Bourdain **

10) The Reach of a Chef: Beyond the Kitchen, by Michael Ruhlman

11) Dispatches from the Edge: A Memoir of War, Disasters, and Survival (AUDIOBOOK), by Anderson Cooper (I also wrote a book review here)

12) Outside the Box, by Lynn Sherr

13) Fleeing Fundamentalism: A Minister’s Wife Examines Faith, by Carlene Cross

14) The Freedom Writers Diary: How a Teacher and 150 Teens Used Writing to Change Themselves and the World Around Them (AUDIOBOOK), by Erin Gruwell and students

15) Are Men Necessary?: When Sexes Collide (AUDIOBOOK), by Maureen Dowd

16) Choosing Simplicity: Real People Finding Peace and Fulfillment in a Complex World, by Linda Breen Pierce

17) Children Playing Before a Statue of Hercules (AUDIOBOOK), by Various Authors

18 ) Word Freak: Heartbreak, Triumph, Genius, and Obsession in the World of Competitive Scrabble Players, by Stefan Fatsis

19) Ultimate Fitness: The Quest for Truth about Health and Exercise, by Gina Kolata

20) Jackpot Nation: Rambling and Gambling Across Our Landscape of Luck, by Richard Hoffer

21) Hate Mail from Cheerleaders, by Rick Reilly

22) The Big Turnoff: Confessions of a TV-Addicted Mom Trying to Raise a TV-Free Kid, by Ellen Currey-Wilson

23) Bad Girls: 26 Writers Misbehave, by Ellen Sussman **

Fiction:

24) Digging to America (AUDIOBOOK), by Anne Tyler

25) The Memory Keeper’s Daughter (AUDIOBOOK), by Kim Edwards

26) The Thirteenth Tale (AUDIOBOOK), by Diane Setterfield

27) Bee Season, by Myla Goldberg

Travel:

28 ) A Thousand Days in Venice, by Marlena De Blasi

29) A Thousand Days in Tuscany: A Bittersweet Adventure, by Marlena De Blasi

30) France: A Love Story, by Camille Cusumano (Editor)

31) French By Heart: An American Family’s Adventures in La Belle France, by Rebecca Ramsey

Breaking Off the Engagement: Would You Give the Ring Back?

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer.)

Ah, the holidays. In addition to all the general merriment and gift giving, it’s also a popular season for diamond rings and bended knees. (In fact, this New York Times article says, “while only about 7 percent of American couples choose to marry in December, 19 percent of couples become engaged during the holidays.”) But on the flip side of that, this time of year also has the highest occurrence of breakups. According to the January ’08 issue of Shape magazine, 56 percent of breakups occur between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day than during any other time of year.

So why is this? Does the feeling of discontentment start once you realize the person you’re with isn’t someone you’d want to take home to meet the family? Might it have something to do with seasonal affective disorder (a dark attitude caused by an extended period of less-than-stellar weather)? Maybe your guy buys himself expensive toys all year long but presents you with a Christmas gift that’s a little short of spectacular. Or perhaps you caught him being too friendly with an attractive co-worker at his office holiday party.

Obviously, a winter breakup can be caused by any number of factors. But whatever the reason, inevitably there will be certain things you’ll have to deal with and get through. And if the breakup involves ending an engagement, you’ll likely be faced with the decision of what to do with the ring. Do you keep it? Give it back?

Melissa Anderson Sweazy shares a quote by Emily Post “on the etiquette of what to do with the ring after the big day has been called off.”

If an engagement is broken, the bride should immediately return the ring to her former fiance. The only “but” in this case is if the ring is a family heirloom of the bride’s. She should then keep the ring. Some argue that the ring should not be returned to the fiance if he was the one to initiate the break-up — rather than a mutual decision to call it quits. It makes more sense to return it. Why keep a painful reminder of the end of an engagement just to be spiteful? It’s better to take the high road and move on. The bride should also return any other presents of value her fiance has given her, and he should return her gifts as well.

For me, I think it would depend on the situation. Even though some people think women should return the ring in every circumstance, regardless of who was at fault or if there was cheating involved, I bet that’s easier said than done. If you’ve been hurt, you might feel like causing some hurt yourself — even if it involves the wallet rather than the heart. But if the breakup was a mutual decision and things ended more amicably, sure, there’s no reason to hold on to something that the other person probably spent quite a bit of money on.

At the Huffington Post, Nina Kotick answers the question, “If the ring fits…does an engagement ring have to be returned?”

Just last week, my oldest friend broke off her engagement. Without too many specifics, they had been together for many years, engaged for two. They lived in her home, both are high-powered and successful in their work, and both are intricately involved in the other’s life. He moved out. Next, he asked for her engagement ring back. Her instinct was to say no. After all, wasn’t it a gift? And hadn’t she said yes to the proposal? Hadn’t she already owned it for two years? She was out of pocket for the wedding dress, and many wedding day deposits – would he reimburse her for those? Shouldn’t there be an offset of all the costs? How about the opportunity cost of her time betrothed to him? How about the fact that he had cheated on her? He caused the break-up, not her. So as you can imagine, I had an earful. And she asked for my guidance.

Nina goes on to give legal advice for other people in this situation. (As it turns out, the answer depends on where you live.)

Delilah asks if someone would buy a used wedding ring if they knew there was a sad story involved. (I don’t think rings are cursed with bad karma, so I don’t see any reason not to save money by buying a pre-owned ring.)

Last week [my friend] called me to tell me she sold her engagement ring (from a past relationship) on ebay. She made a few bucks off it. [...] I think it is pretty wise and thrifty to buy a used ring. I wouldn’t mind. Then I started thinking about the story behind the ring. Jen dated the guy who gave her the ring for a long time — years. She waited a long time for that ring. The guy finally bought her a ring but they never set a date. She had picked out a few but for dumb reasons those dates didn’t work out. [...] Those two were never meant to be. Pretty quick after she found out her fiance had a girlfriend on the side she started dating this other guy. Let me tell you….two men could not be so different. Well, to make a long story short, she married the new guy. I’ve heard her say her ex did her a favor by cheating on her because if he hadn’t she wouldn’t have ended up with Neil. But I am really off track here….would you want a ring that had such a horrible story behind it? I guess you wouldn’t know the story but you have to know if someone is selling an engagement ring there has to be a breakup story involved. At least this one had a happy ending.

When an engagement is broken, the ring isn’t the only thing on a person’s mind, as Bad4shidduchim illustrates.

Another broken engagement. What’s there to say? It makes me wonder. [...]

Why? Why do people commit and then break up? Do they think they know what they want, and then discover otherwise? It’s a troubling thought. Should you set exact specifications for a spouse, to ensure that you never fall for a charmer? I mean, if you don’t know ‘what your looking for’, how do you know when someone nice and likable is definitely and absolutely not what you’re looking for?

How do you know which things are really important and which you can let slide? [...]

“He/she is not for me.” At which point in the process does this suddenly become sharply, glaringly, obvious?

Does something happen during the engagement process specifically that highlights this for people?

Little Miss Law shares the story of her broken engagement. They were in the thick of wedding plans when she started to get cold feet. Then those cold feet become “freezing.” And then “hypothermic.”

I eventually realized that this was a heck of a lot more than pre-wedding jitters — I had an overwhelming sense that it just wasn’t right. Not then, not in ten years, not in sixty years. But this realization took me months and lots of tears and angst to come to, because I did love him. I just had to follow my heart.

In the aftermath of my broken engagement, I realized that as alone as I felt during all the inner turmoil leading up to it, I was never really alone. My family and friends came through for me in an incredible way. And I found out that there were many, many women out there who had gone through the same thing. I found message boards and websites — even found a terrific book called There Goes the Bride. [...]

Even though the last year has been difficult, I don’t feel cursed at all. In fact, I feel incredibly blessed — to have had the presence of mind to do what felt right, rather than walking down a path simply because I was afraid to turn back.

On a lighter note, maybe if these women had made “engagement chicken” for their men, they wouldn’t be having this problem in the first place. Iconoclastic shares the story and the recipe.

I really thought I had heard every urban legend there was to theoretically “trap-me-a-man” but this one may top the cake.

Glamour.com published a recipe on how to make Engagement Chicken. The story all starts 22 years ago when an editor passed the recipe on to her assistant, who the made it for her boyfriend, and was engaged in less than a month. Wow! It must have been the chicken! The chicken has reportedly inspired weddings throughout the magazines history — and the women at Glamour were kind enough to share it with us.

And of course this conversation wouldn’t be complete unless we included a list of the joys of being single during the Christmas season (this list would have fit in quite well with my recent being single during the holidays post). Here’s one of the examples from Lisa Steadman:

Joy #5: Rejoice. Renew. Reflect.

The holidays are the perfect time to take stock of your life as it is and to make any changes for the coming year. And the beauty of being single is that all of the choices are up to you so you get to be incredibly selfish! Really spend some time this holiday season thinking about what you want for your fabulous life. Looking to make a career change? Make it happen! Want to go back to school? Go for it! Serious about finding the love of your life? Enlist the help of friends and experts and make 2007 the best year possible. You deserve it!

What about you? Have you ever found yourself in this situation? Would you (or did you) give the ring back?

Gift Wish: Bling or Sentimental?

(I was asked to write BlogHer’s Question of the Week: Which gift would you prefer to receive from your partner…bling or sentimental? If you’d like to answer the question on your own blog, make sure to visit the original post on BlogHer and add a link back to your site.)

I’m not typically a “bling” kind of girl. I drive a five-year-old Honda Civic. I don’t get manicures or pedicures. I’ve never been to a spa, tanning bed, or visited a professional masseuse. I don’t wear a lot of makeup (much less worry about the difference between a “day” and a “night” look). I wear my hair long, so I only go to a salon about four times a year for upkeep. I don’t remember the last time I bought an item of clothing for myself that cost over $30 (I’ve been downsizing and getting rid of things, not adding to what I already have). And I go through spurts with wearing jewelry. Sometimes I’ll wear it regularly, and then I’ll go weeks without wearing anything other than an occasional necklace to work.

I’ve said on multiple occasions that my two sisters are much more glamorous than I. Just recently I told my older sister that I almost always wear pants to work, so I wear the same pair of black shoes pretty much every day. (It’s easy; I keep them under my desk and then I wear my sneakers whenever I leave the office.) I believe she was genuinely appalled.

The thing is, I really don’t care about all of that stuff. I try to take care of my body and my appearance, but I don’t go out of my way to draw attention to myself. And right now, another part of the “non-bling” lifestyle is simply about living within my means. I work for a nonprofit and I live in an area with a high cost of living. If I had more money to spend on the bling? Sure, I might be persuaded to part with my cash on a more regular basis.

But what would I want as a gift? Would I want the bling, or would I prefer to have something sentimental?

When I think about this question, I don’t just think about what I’d want. I think about the situation of the person from whom I’d be receiving this gift. Just like I wouldn’t go into debt to buy myself some bling, I wouldn’t expect someone else to purchase something for me that was outside of their means. But sure, if the guy had some extra cash he’d like to part with for my sake, I wouldn’t tell him no.

There’s certainly nothing wrong with getting a sentimental gift, regardless of the amount of money a person has. (And by “sentimental” I’m not necessarily talking homemade or even something that takes a lot of effort; it can be as simple as remembering something you might have mentioned months before, filing the information away and then bringing the gift forward at a later time without you having to remind him. We all like to know that the other person is paying attention.)

Maryam posted her family’s wish list on BlogHer, where alongside some pricey gift items she gave her husband the option of taking the sentimental “second choice.” Here’s the first one on the list:

1) Ms. Pac-Man Arcade game: $2599.99 at Costco
You probably are wondering, just like Robert, why I want this arcade game so much. The truth is I grew up during the 80s and spent a lot of my free time at the arcades with my friends during high school. Ms. Pac-Man was my favorite game and when I play it, I feel like that carefree teenager again. I know it is not wise to spend that much money on a game, and I doubt we’ll ever get one, but I can’t help and wish for it.

1) a. As an alternative to Ms. Pac-Man arcade game, which is what I have always wanted, Robert can promise to spend an hour a day with me. I would love to go for walks everyday with him. We can hold hands and walk our worries away.

How sweet is that? I imagine Maryam wouldn’t give her husband sentimental alternatives to fancy gift items if she didn’t really mean it. Like her, I know I’d much rather feel loved and appreciated than be able to admire, for instance, some fancy rock on my finger. (The best of both worlds? The bling and the feeling of love and appreciation. But we have to be realistic.)

So what about you? Which gift would you prefer to receive from your partner…bling or sentimental?

Living in a Small Space

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer.)

I moved to a new apartment last weekend, and so far I really like it. It’s a two-bedroom unit in an older brick building, and it’s located within a short walking distance to a variety of shops, restaurants, and a stop on the DC metro.

The apartment isn’t small, but it doesn’t have an immense amount of storage, either. The living room is large, which is nice. The kitchen is long and narrow, but it also has a lot of cabinet space, so I think we’ll be okay there. But there’s only one bathroom, a small linen closet in the hallway — and then my bedroom, which is the smaller of the two, with only one small closet (I volunteered to take this room since my roommate has more furniture and knickknacks than I do). The closet is far from walk-in size.

I knew it would be this way before I moved in. We could have found a newer place in another part of town, but we both wanted to be in Old Town Alexandria. There’s a lot of stuff to do in the area, and it’s a great location, just a few miles from DC (we’re close, but not too close).

But when you move in with someone else — especially when you’ve both previously lived on your own — it’s inevitable that you’ll have to deal with the issue of not having enough space. I was unpacking some boxes last week (towels and sheets in the linen closet; toiletries and cleaning supplies in the bathroom), and everything fit. But it’s only my stuff in there right now (I’m living by myself for a few more weeks until my new roommate joins me).

When two females live together in separate bedrooms, it’s a different kind of space-situation than if I were moving in with — well, for instance, a boyfriend. In that situation a two-bedroom apartment might seem a bit bigger since you’d both be sleeping in one room, the extra room could be used as an office or guest bedroom, and you probably won’t have as many “doubles” of things.

As it stands right now, my roommate and I each have our own vacuum cleaner, cordless phone, pots and pans, dishes, silverware, blankets, lamps, etc. It seems kind of silly to store all this duplicate stuff in one place during the time we live together — but what can you do? It’s not like one of us can get rid of what we have — when we no longer live together, there’s a good possibility we’ll need it again.

Many people live in small spaces. In fact, just from watching shows like HGTV’s Small Space, Big Style, I know there are a lot of people who live in far less square footage than I do. I don’t care about having two vacuum cleaners stored in the hall closet, or shelves stuffed to the brim with our combined collection of towels, sheets, and blankets. You just have to put more thought into what you’ll allow into your personal space. When you have less space, I think you tend to be more discerning about what you allow in (especially during the holiday season, when the gift-giving tradition means you’re likely to gain even more possessions).

We’ve all heard the saying that when you make more money, you tend to spend more money. I think the same thing can be said for space: if you have more of it, you’ll find something to fill it up. There’s nothing wrong with living in a small space, or downsizing your possessions to fit into that space. Every time I’ve weeded through my possessions — even when I’ve had trouble deciding whether I should really give something away — I’ve never regretted getting rid of it after the fact. Out of sight, out of mind.

Do you think your space is small? This woman lives in an 84-square-foot house:

When Dee Williams started this “experiment,” she wanted her house to be as green as possible. So it was built using many salvaged products. She used second-hand wood, a flat-bed trailer and doors from a Dumpster and boat.

She used shredded blue jeans for some of the insulation. It must work: she said she spends about $6 a month for heat in the winter and less in the summer. [...]

The home looks like a log cabin inside and out. She optimizes space with a folding table and hidden drawers. She climbs a ladder to get to her bedroom, which is more like a loft with a skylight.

Holly said the idea of living in a small space appeals to her.

What appeals to me is the small space. I have always loved little houses and small spaces. I’ve never been one for material possessions. I have minimalistic tendencies. After all my years of having to fit all my worldly goods in one suitcase, I could so easily do this.

USexpatriate has lived in a one-room, 360 interior-square-foot cabin [409 exterior footprint] for the past three years. She gives great advice about banishing clutter, how to hide downsize your possessions (or hide what you have, if you don’t want to get rid of it), and decorating small spaces. She also knows she’s not alone in her love of living small.

I’m hardly alone. Even as the size of the average new American house has more than doubled (from 1,100 square feet during the post-WWII housing boom to more than 2,225 by 1999), more and more people are also exploring small-space living. These include, most visibly, RVers spending months in their cleverly designed rolling homelets, simple-living advocates wanting to use fewer resources, homeless camper-dwellers, folks living on boats, and country newcomers who are camping out in garages, trailers, cabins, or sheds while building their dream homes. Finally you’ve got people like me who’d rather have 409 paid-for square feet than 2,225 square feet of mortgaged luxury.

Another advantage of living in a small space is that it doesn’t take as long to clean — but, as USexpatriate says, there’s a flip-side to that, too.

In small spaces, every dirty dish left on the counter, every pile of bills you set on a tabletop upon return from the Post Office, becomes “proportionally” a big mess. Unlike in a large house, they’re right there in your face. They might be taking up your only work space or eating area. Also, when all your activities are confined to one small space, that space will get dusty and dirty more quickly than when your activities are spread around 2,000 square feet.

Amy Read lives on a boat in Mexico with her family. She’s learned how to downsize their lifestyle to fit in the small space, and when she went on a recent visit back to the States, she was surprised at the amount of stress she felt.

So, there we were in Texas, with absolutely anything and everything available to us, after having to scrounge and learning to do without in Mexico. What were all those things I needed that I couldn’t find in Mexico? I don’t remember, but here is a bleach pen, and here is a WD-40 dispensed like a felt tip marker, and here is a cell phone holder that also holds business cards and has a key ring. Not that I need any of these things, but my, how clever! How convenient! And Armour All sells wipes for your dashboard and for your chrome and for your tires, what a great idea!

Suddenly I’m getting caught up in capitalism and consumerism. But, I only have 48 hours to get done what I need to get done. And I only have a 46 foot boat to store stuff in. And, I don’t NEED any of this stuff anyway!! It was all terribly stressful.

Louise lives in a 300-square-foot RV with her husband. Her suggestion for corralling clutter is to use lots of baskets.

I’ve found that using baskets and bins to contain small items really helps. Things that we use often are out where we can access them, but contained in such a way that they don’t fly around when we’re moving. It also makes it easy to put things away immediately after use, which streamlines the process of getting ready to hit the road.

Sara enjoys living a minimalist lifestyle in a small space, and enjoys the personal advantages of having an uncluttered house.

Yes. When your home is organized and decluttered — you will be a different person. Your outlook on life changes. Situations that seemed out of control and chaotic now seem manageable. When you wake up and walk to the kitchen to make coffee and your counter-top is clean — your day just got that much easier.

The state of your home is in direct proportion to the state of your heart/mind. When you have piles of stuff all over your house, your spirit just gets bogged down with all of it whether you know it or not. When you don’t have to worry about moving your STUFF around, cleaning your STUFF, and storing your STUFF — you have a lot more time to spend doing things things that you love and spending time with your family and friends! And that’s what life is all about.

Krystal describes the appeal of a miniHOME.

This is the world’s first off-grid, high-style, portable house. At only 325 sq. ft., it’s packed with amazing little nooks and crannies, and all the modern conveniences of a typical house … except that it uses just 1/10th of the energy.

I love how functional everything is in the home. The dining room table is rigged to triple as a side table, a kitchen table, or a dining room table, depending on how many guests you have. The sliding full-sized closet doors also double as the washroom door. The staircase upstairs to the loft doubles as a bookshelf, and the kitchen has 4 ft. of space in-between each side, so it can easily accommodate 2 people … plus, with the loft, that means the ceiling is 13 ft. high!

Related posts and links:

1) City Mouse features space-saving and organizational design ideas, like
apartment-size recycling bins, invisible bookshelves, and hanging closet organizers.

2) A story in the Washington Post featured a man living in a 187-square-foot condo in Dupont Circle.

3) Declutter It! hosts a weekly Organize Your Life blog carnival.

4) HGTV has tons of articles about living in and decorating small spaces, like Top 10 Apartment Decorating Don’ts.

5) An article by Rosemary Sadez Friedmann, an interior designer.

6) Some people use space-saving devices that serve more than one function, like a combination microwave/coffeepot.

7) The Container store has great storage options. I like these modern (and expandable) ideas for a home office area.

Gift Ideas for Singles

(This is cross-posted on BlogHer and was written by request, as part of their holiday series gift-guide.)

Single women aren’t always an easy group to buy for — we’re a wide range of ages, tastes, and personalities. Luckily, there are a lot of good ideas to be found out there.

FYI: Maybe this is just me, but I already have a collection of good-smelling lotions in a variety of scents. Although this may seem like a nice, easy gift to pick up for a single woman, I also think it’s boring. If a girl is in need of some smelly lotion, most likely she’ll have gone out in advance of the holiday to pick it up for herself. However, the other quick-and-easy standby — giftcards — are always appreciated, as long as it’s a store you know she likes, or one where you can buy a variety of items (like Target, for instance).

In random order:

1. Blix wall decals ($25-$45): This is an easy way to change the look of a room without a huge price tag, and with hardly any effort. Just stick these decals on your walls for an instant transformation. There are a wide variety of options, but I like the decals that are re-stickable. Take them off; put them somewhere else. They’re available in daisies, dots, and polynesian print. (They also have gift certificates available, if you want the recipient to be able to choose which one they want, and in what colors.)

2. Wall Gallery Frame Set ($68): I think this looks great (and there’s also the $88 deluxe version available). As with the wall decals, when the frame set is already together like this, you don’t have to worry about hanging and spacing things yourself.

3. Photo products from Qoop ($3.99-$29.99): Calendars, photobooks, greeting cards, posters, stickers, luggage tags, mousepads, and more — made quickly and easily from photos linked directly from your Flickr account. I had a calendar made for my dad a few years ago, made up of photos I’d taken when I spent a semester abroad in Europe, and he loved it.

4. Gift subscription to Blockbuster Online ($9.99-$107.94): There are a lot of options, depending on the plan you choose (whether it’s 1, 2, or 3 DVDs that can be checked out at a time), and the duration (1, 3, or 6 months). I like Blockbuster’s service because you can take the movies back to the store, rather than mailing them in, and receive another free movie immediately as a trade-in.

5. Pop Art Toaster ($12.50-$34.99, depending on the number of design plates): This toaster will make smiley faces, hearts, snowflakes, and flower designs on your toast, among other options. I found this via Janet from Slice of Pink, who has put together several gift guides so far this year. This toaster was actually found on one of her first lists, which was “Things that seem cool in theory, but which will probably turn out to be a huge pain in the ass after about one week.” But I disagree with her on this particular pain-in-the-ass pick, which is why I’m putting it on my gift-suggestion list. (Just make sure the recipient likes toast, otherwise it’ll probably sit unused in a cabinet somewhere.)

6. Lobz Audio Ear Warmers ($21): I first saw these ear warmer/headphones on Fit Sugar a few weeks ago, and since then I’ve seen them on a number of other sites as well. I think they’re a great gift idea for someone who spends a lot of time outside in chilly weather, and wants to listen to music at the same time.

7. Pinocchio tape measure ($5.95): Pull Pinocchio’s nose to get a measure up to 60 inches. I think this is adorable, and just one example of the relatively inexpensive gifts and household items you can find at CB2.

8. Threadless t-shirts ($10.00, through 12/16): There’s such a huge variety of t-shirts to choose from on this site, you’re pretty much guaranteed to find one you like. Derby of the Damned, for instance.

9. Leather business card holder ($34): I have business cards, but I’ve never taken them out of the box. I don’t have a need to give them out myself, but if you do…why not have something pretty to put them in? You can find these and a ton of other cool gift/office/misc items at See Jane Work.

10. Self-Portrait Camera Extension Arm ($39.95): This is a great gift for the girl (you know who she is) who likes to take self-portraits. She can use this extension arm to take shots farther away than just arm’s length, and it’s less likely that her arm will show up in the photo. Of course she could always use the camera’s self-timer, but those can be difficult to frame. [Source: OhMyThat'sAwesome]