Comments on: Dating Older Men: How Old is Too Old?

By: Zandria.us » The Record Is Still Unbroken

Zandria.us » The Record Is Still Unbroken — Thu, 26 May 2011 17:17:11 +0000

[...] when I said that the only guys brave enough to talk to my roommate and I at bars are older men? This record wasn’t broken last weekend, when we went out to a bar in Old Town Alexandria [...]

By: Jessi

Jessi — Fri, 20 May 2011 03:53:50 +0000

My child’s father is 36 years my senior and our daughter is three. We have been together almost 6 years, I just turned 24. Anyway at first it was kind of embarassing when we would go out in public and people would give us those curious glances or gross stares, but I’ve never been so loved and secure in my entire life. Sometimes people with bias and cruel opinions can sway your feelings, but if we all did what everyone else wanted, then no one would be truely happy. Sometimes it better to take the road less traveled. A lot of people tell me that I havent had a chance to experience life and get to know myself by myself. I think of it this way, why go through the trials and tribulations of failed relationships, why go through all that just to figure out what makes you happy. God gave it to you, if you are happy, why be miserable to satisfy someone else. All Im really trying to say is, be happy for yourself.

By: OrchidBlack

OrchidBlack — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:25:45 +0000

I, like quite a few others found this forum because I am completely stressing about seing a guy who is older, a lot older. I am 18 and he is 57, almost a forty year age gap between us. It is so strange because he is someone I knew as a child and when we met after not seeing each other for 6 years there was this spark. I love being with him, he is so wise and teaches me things and has so much knowledge about everything! I love to just sit and listen and I just don’t find guys my own age interesting at all, they all tell you exactly the same thing. But part of me knows it is far far to old. It is even more complicated because my parents, who are oblivious of what is going on, hate him and he hates them likewise. He is also in a relashionship with somebody who I am very fond of but he wants to end it with her. I trust him but part of me worries that this is just a game to him when my emotiond sre already extremely messed up. Part of me thinks if he really did care for me then he would end it. I am a student and away from home for the first time and I watch all my friends just living the student lifestyle but this part of me doesn’t because it feels like a betrayal and a world I could never bring him into…gahhh!!!! Advice please? email :milphin@aol.com

By: Kelsey White

Kelsey White — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 01:02:29 +0000

Well alot of yall are about to judge wat im about to say but just listen up… i am 14 and my “man” is 27 about to be 28 we have been knowing each other since i was six but neither of us ever thought it would be anything more than a close friendship… well one night we were deep into conversation about 2 months ago and we kissed. it was my fault for intiseing him or however u spell it. anyways he lives with my mom and stepdad… and we are not sexually active. he is so deeply in love with me but i dont think i feel the same i mean after all im only 14 and i fall in love frequently… he is not a perve or a rapest just simply a guy that i wanted at the moment… and if i broak up with him he said that we couldnt be friends… because it would hurt to bad to talk to me or even look at me… i for one love it the was it was before. anyways my mom told me that if we ever done anything at all even dateing at a later age it would mess up the family and i love and respect my mothers wishes… im on a 18 and 19 year olds maturity level but i have really got myself deep in mess this time… i want to stop seeing him but keep things the way they were knowing he will hate me afterwards i couldnt bring myself to do it i want him but dont want him because i want to have fun with guys my own age and grow up i have really rushed my life along as i can see. and i dont know wat to do… PLEASE CONTACT ME @ vampirekisses1995@yahoo.com and tell me what you think… by the way its not like i can avoide him he will always be there to show me what i have done. HELP lol i dont know wat else to say besides this is really a mind fuck isnt it? peace everyone
~kelsey

By: Elena

Elena — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:21:30 +0000

why would you look for someone els if you got everyting you want? i would be happy if i found someone who loved me back. treasure what you have, cause it is not something you find easily back.

By: monique

monique — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 07:04:28 +0000

im 25 dating a 45 year old man. i love him very much. i know there is difference in the age but truthfully at first i never would have put him at the age he really is. he acts as though he is around my age. he goes out to places i like to go out but not as often as i go but we go and dance drink and have a great time. the thing is that he is going through a divorce and im kind of disappointed about that because it seems like there is another part of him that i dont really know the full story. i dont wanna fee as though the other woman or as someone that is trying to use him. thats not how it goes in my book. i want us to be happy forever. we have been dating for 6mths now and he really is a hard worker. i love him we have great great sex:) we go out to da movies and out to eat. do anybody think that i maybe getting myself into something i dont want to or just think i should just find someone closer to my own age or just leave it as a friendship. please help a sister out.

By: Elena

Elena — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 10:10:06 +0000

Love is always worth to fight for. I say follow your heart. Listen to what it tells you. No matter how difficult it is. Dont let other people take away your luck of finding someone you love. Be selfish. There is nothing more greatest to experience love. I think the greatest thing you ever learn is to love and to be loved in return. Why not giving it a try? Whats the worst thing that can happen? Lose that person ? Well at last you have tried. And know you have giving everyting to let it work.

By: fur elise

fur elise — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 03:46:04 +0000

It is all too refreshing to hear the diverse stories of women in love with older men. I come to this site seeking some perspective on the issue and have found it to be of great clarity. I just met a man who is 13 years older than me, I am 27, he is almost 40. I was very hesitant to pursue this but decided it was worth a shot being that most of the men my age 25-35 are not cutting it right now. They are afraid to get involved, see way too many options out there and freak at the slightest hint of commitment, which for me simply means the audacity to admit we are in a relationship and take the time/ make an effort to make things happen. If that is too much to ask then I really don’t know where to begin. But, I can tell already that this man is different. He talks, openly about things and makes no excuses for the reality of life. I enjoy his company and he is very very sweet to me. I actually didn’t have a problem with our age difference, but when i found out he had children, one 20, and one 18, I began to think about the issues that might arise. What will his daughter think of me or treat me. Am I still a child? What will my parents think….my father is only 49. It might as well be a shot in the dark to continue this, but I think I am going to try. If nothing else the experience might give me some perspective for future love. Any advice?

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 02:13:18 +0000

I’d like to add to this as well. I’m 22 completely in love with a man 18 years older than I. It was in every way unexpected and a few months ago, I would have answered the same as most peopl here. Saying that 10 years would be my max and I would never imagine a life with someone almost twice my age. Let me say this, YOU DON’T DECIDE WHO COMES INTO YOUR LIFE. love is going to find you, and it doesn’t pay attention to age, gender, color, height, weight or all that jazz. You fall in love with the one who makes you laugh, who’s touch sends tingles through your body, who you feel a sense of uter connection. Yes its true I worry about the future and how I will cope when his age starts to play a role in his health, but whos to say I won’t get sick early as well? we have no idea what the future holds, so I will follow my heart and love him fully everyday while I can. Also, the point was brought up about being in different phases of your lives. He has been married ( divorced), 2 children ( close to my age) successful career a house and all of that which I have yet to accoplish for myself, but at the current time. We are at the same place in our lives. We are both traveling the world, volunteering and taking in the most of what life and this world has to offer. when I am ready to have a house and children to run around, he may too be ready again as well. My point is, you can’t put an age limit on who you’re going to fall in love with, because you may just be cutting yourself short. Follow your heart always. Your not alone.

By: no name

no name — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 01:41:07 +0000

I am falling in love with a guy 6 years my senior. The only problem is that I am 14 and he is 20! We have known each other all our lives and hopefully we can date once i am around 18.. he will be 24. It is so sad though because I won’t see him for at least a year+. I know it sounds crazy but we forget about our age when we are together.