It’s really not a nice feeling to discover somebody cheated on you.
I’m pretty easy to please. But I do require something that’s obviously a little too much to ask from some people: honesty. I’ve always been up-front about that. Don’t ever lie to me. I may forgive you for it, but I won’t forget it, and you’ll forever be known in my mind as “That Liar.”
When your lies are discovered, don’t make stupid excuses to attempt to justify your actions. Your silly excuses make sense only in your own mind. And try not to be so worried about the repercussions of your actions that you neglect to say you’re sorry for what you did. I mean, even though I wouldn’t have believed your apology, it would have been nice if you’d at least made an attempt at contrition.
Do you remember all those times you told me I was too good for you, and that I deserved better? You were right. Thank you for finally showing me the kind of person I don’t need – or want – in my life.
(This post was originally going to be called “Revenge is Sweet, Sucker,” but since I only got about three hours of sleep before coming to work this morning, I’m not in the right frame of mind to say anything else. Maybe I’ll say more in a few years, once nobody cares anymore. But by then I won’t care anymore, either, because in a very short time I’ll be over this and I will have moved on. I’ve already moved on. I’m better off, and I know it.)
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Oh, I’m sorry.
I wish I could make you feel better.
But you are right, of course: you ARE better off and in a short while (shorter then “a few years”!) it will be distant history.
Ouch. I’ve been there, and it sucks. I’m sorry. But you are right – you’ll move on, and you’ll find someone who really does deserve you.
Well, that just stinks. I’m sorry. Unfortunately, I know *exactly* how you feel. Thank goodness you’re rid of him.
I completely agree and totally empathize with you. If you need more venting, you know my email address.
I’d bring you yummy treats (and then go running with you!) if I lived in the area
And, yes, you *totally* do deserve better!
Yuck, that sucks! I am sorry! A liar only deserves a liar and not the awesome Zan. I just know you’ll get over it soon. Hugs!
Totally going through this right now, even wrote a post about it today……….
I hate liars…….
Oh honey, I am sorry. I hate cheaters too. Men who cheat just are not worth shit. My Dad cheated on my Mom and I have major issues with that.
I’m not sure exactly what happened here, but I just wanted to say that I feel you, sister. I totally feel you <3
I vote ur tattoo does NOT contain his* name!
*even though there was no mention of a gender to your lying liar, I’ll roll with everyone else’s assumption that it is indeed a male lying liar.
I had to learn the hard way that if a man tell you you are too good for him, believe him. I’m sorry you got cheated and lied to. Bullshit.
good for you!! way to say it.
f*ck liars. i’m glad you aren’t wasting your time.
I think anger is an important stage. Maybe you need to try a kickboxing class and imagine him as your target?
I so agree with you!
Sending you hugs and positive vibes, I am sorry you have gone through this!
Been there. It SUCKS. You deserve better than that.
yep, that is an awful feeling, betrayed and sickened. I’ve finally learned when the guy says “you are too good for me”, I believe them.
That’s awful, and I’m sorry you had to go through it. I’m glad, however, that you now know the truth about this person and can move on without him in your life. Have a good weekend, and do something really really nice for yourself!
i agree with first jen, i’ve learned that generally when people tell you that you are too good for them, they are right.
this post reminds me of irreplaceable, by beyonce. that’s a good thing, i love that song. you should put it on your ipod.
Hell to the yeah, girl.
Whatever happened, don’t take it personally. You’ve got an army on your side!
Been there. Thank God for those moments when we realize that we’re worth far more than how some people may treat us.
wow! i sense alot of anger in this daily update! move on and find you another hot tamale!! lol!
I’m really sorry Zan…guys really do stink a lot of the time…makes me ashamed of my gender, what we so often (and casually, and cruelly) do to women. I do not understand how a human mind can believe that cheating is acceptable, and permissible. You’re an amazing woman, so yes, you do deserve better, and indeed, he deserves to simmer in steaming slime for a very long time. Be well, sincerely, Chris R.
(And pardon my saying this, I don’t always think forgiving is necessary; don’t let the anger fester, but move on, and exclude…exclude like crazy—why would this person deserve to be forgiven?)
that DOES STINK.
good thing this person wasnt involved in the tattoo!
I’m sorry to hear this.
But I’m glad you’re cutting ties rather than waiting another 3 years like I did.
It is terrible to experience something like this. I empathize.
I also feel like your posting this in a very public way really is something like revenge. His actions seem to approach cruelty, and you’re angry. But ought we publicly try to hurt, or embarrass, or make to feel stupid and insensitive those who hurt us in the first place?
One is and ought to be free to post one’s thoughts wherever and however one wants. But … to the extent that the publicness is used for revenge … a way to hurt another, as he hurt oneself … that is what worries me.
But it doesn’t worry me a lot. It’s a trifle on the human continuum of good and bad. And, given the situation, I should probably cut you more slack.
Uh-oh. I’m sorry Zan.
I’m so sorry! You’re right, you are better off. You don’t deserve that.
I just found you via “love is blonde”. I can really emphasize with your post. I am sorry that happened to you. It really sucks when things like that happen.
the “crime” will become smaller. as small as the spiritual nature of the one who committed it. “an outward expression of the inner self”. “he” will disappear, but the reality of the fralty of the human spirit will last. this is unfortunate but hopefully will become a positive addition to who you are. lovu
I’ll second everyone that said that when someone tells you that you are to good for them, the best response is, “OK then, later,” and walk away. The guy who cheated on me said the exact same thing.
I’d also like to say that blogging about being cheated on is not revenge. You haven’t named him or even said anything that’s an attack. You know, often when we are cheated on, we feel ashamed or embarrassed, but it’s backwards because he is the one who has been shamed and embarrassed, not you. So when we blog about being cheated on, we’re really saying, this happened to me and I hurt, but I am not shamed and I am not embarrassed.
I think sharing in this way helps everyone else who’s been through the same thing put the blame right where it belongs – on the cheater.
Based on my years of experience I’ve come to learn if someone tells you that you are too good for them, they’re probably right!
Sorry to her about your pain. Love the tattoo and yes, one day this will all be a just a faint blip or bump in your life!
Take good care and don’t lose too much weight!
I KNOW how you feel. This is how I’m feeling this week and it sucks!