1) “Oh, you’re one of those people.”
(Spoken by a female co-worker after I said I need to go clothes shopping because I haven’t been in a while. “Those people” apparently means “someone who doesn’t like to shop.” She, on the other hand, likes to go browsing multiple times a week.)
2) “Zandria, when I first met you I didn’t get the impression that you’d be very nice. But now I think you’re a very nice person.”
(A random comment made by a male co-worker.)
3) “You sound like the trainer at my gym.”
(This was said to me during a conversation I had about drinking protein shakes after doing a weight workout, and I mentioned how the protein rebuilds torn muscle.)
4) “That is so true.”
(A confirmation by my roommate, when I said that one of the worst things about being single is sleeping alone.)
5) “No worries. Go right ahead.”
(Said by a hot guy at the gym, after I “accidentally” jumped in front of him to refill my water bottle. I’d said something along the lines of, “Oh, sorry! My bad.”)
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“Zandria, when I first met you I didn’t get the impression that you’d be very nice. But now I think you’re a very nice person.â€
What a freaking backhanded “compliment.” You should’ve shot back, “That’s funny, when I met you, you were so completely unmemorable that I don’t even know who you are right now.”
“That is so true.â€
I was just thinking that last night.
amen, WG.
we hate the backhanded compliments.
(Im getting ready for a bunch of those when I finally get a haircut/trim. not high on my priority list and I ALWAYS get the YOU LOOK SO MUCH BETTER!)
M.
“Zandria, when I first met you I didn’t get the impression that you’d be very nice. But now I think you’re a very nice person.â€
This struck a chord, because I get that comment quite often. I am going to use your blog to make an important announcement:
I am not a snob. I am SHY. As in, slow to warm. Please don’t judge right away… give me some time. Thanks.
You know… I don’t miss sleeping in the same bed with someone. I like my space!
I get number 2 a lot……..
Number 2 has been said to me before too. People must not think before they speak around us.
Peoples reactions when they find out someone else doesn’t like shopping or something that other people are “supposed to” enjoy is really funny. I love the weirded-out expressions and then the hasty attempts to rearrange their faces so as not to look completely disgusted and bewildered. Heaven forbid someone not want to hit the mall every afternoon!
I LIKE sleeping alone. I know, I know, but I have the most horrific insomnia issues, and they get worse when I’m in a relationship, because not only do I worry about not being able to sleep, but I worry that my sleeplessness is keeping someone else up, too.
“Oh, you’re one of those people.â€
I am also one of those people. I HATE shopping for clothes. I think it’s because I’m tall and nothing ever fits off the rack. My husband has to force me to go and hold my hand through the experience.
(i’m going by “classic” jen to differentiate myself – i used to be the only jen that regularly commented here so i think it’s appropriate.)
i think sharing a bed is the worst thing about being in a relationship. if i had (1) consent from my mate (i currently don’t); (2) a free bed that is as comfortable as my current bed (because i’m too cheap to buy a second bed); and (3) enough room for two beds (i currently don’t), i’d be all over the Ricky-and-Lucy-Ricardo-two-bed-thing in a minute.
I miss when my boyfriend is out of town, mostly for the few minutes before we are actually asleep. We both have an understanding that once it’s time to “dodo” we want to be apart, which for me is like sleeping by myself, but I’m not a spread eagle type sleeper.
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I can’t cuddle sleep in a bed, but I can do the cuddle couch nap no problem.
I never knew I had so many non-cuddling readers! I think it’s nice to fall asleep with your head on someone’s arm, or one of your limbs draped over someone’s else limbs.
“Zandria, when I first met you I didn’t get the impression that you’d be very nice. But now I think you’re a very nice person.â€
OMG! I don’t think I would ever say something like this to someone, even if I was thinking it. Another thing I always get is…
“You look nice today”
It kind of makes me think like I don’t try to look nice everyday at work. Oh well! This is my first time on this site and you have a very pretty name and website! I’ll be sure to bookmark you and come visit again! Have a great day.
I’m totally with you on #4. I soooo miss having someone to sleep with which I know is adding to my insomnia. I had someone to sleep with for over 3 years and it was nice.
When I was doing the online dating thing, I’d get, “Oh, you look better in person.” I used to think, “Does that mean you think I looked no so better in pictures?”
People are odd.
I’ve been married for 15 years/2 years before that we were together. Not that I don’t like to cuddle, but 17 years with only a handful of nights to really stretch out? Well, I’d love some space!
You have at least one more non-cuddling reader here. I have a queen bed and that’s not even enough space for me when my man’s there. A king size bed is great, though–you don’t even have to know someone else is in there with you! Although I like the emotional aspect, I can’t fall asleep if someone else is touching me.
I’m down with Wendy! We’ve been together for 14 years and we’re definitely in the “I need space to sleep!” stage. For me, it’s not so much about the cuddling, but knowing someone’s there at the end of the day.
3) “You sound like the trainer at my gym.â€
I get that sometimes, but then the same people come to me for “Free” advice.
Can I just say, for the record, “4)”.
As for the guy at the gym who you jumped in front of, not to take anything away from how he looked, I’m guessing he was the one who attached the “hot” adjective to you.
I know I would.
(Found you through http://mssinglemama.com)
I’ve had #2 said to me a few times. Current friends have told me that their first impression of me was that I was intimidating.