I signed up for an online dating account back in July — it was for a three month membership, so it renewed at the end of October.
I hid my profile for about a week so it wouldn’t show up in search results, but it’s active again as of yesterday. I hadn’t made any modifications to the profile since July, so I updated the text and added some new photos.
I could write a list of things I do and don’t like about online dating, and I probably will at some point. The biggest thing, though, is that it seems hard for one person to be enough. The mentality is: “Yeah, I like this person…but do I like them enough? There are so many other possibilities out there.” Problems arise when one person thinks they’ve found enough, but the other person doesn’t feel the same. I’ve been on both sides.
There are already some new possibilities since I reactivated my account yesterday. I’ve been lucky to meet some great people, and I suspect I will continue to do so.
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Glad you had better luck then me on there. Then again, your a hottie too! hehe
I’m a firm believer in ‘you just know’ – true that dating can be looked at as ‘enough’ but most of life can be looked at that way. Do you order off a menu and think ‘will I like this one enough?’ or shop at the mall and think ‘will I like this shirt enough?’ Probably not because you know that there will be another chance if you dont like it…then again, you can eat a dessert after dinner and just know that this is your favorite – you don’t have to wonder or think about it, you just know. I always looked at dating kind of like that, enjoy it and one day you’ll just know.
~K
So I guess I know how your conversation went.
I’ll hold my thumbs for you, Zandria! (That’s the Swedish way of wishing someone luck. We cross our fingers when we lie…)
Oooo… I can’t wait for some stories!
Second kel on the “you’ll just know” front, as annoying as it may be to hear. Keep digging for gold!
Dating sure has its ups and downs! Hope things unfold well for you:)
So we reactivated the profile? I find that when you put in new pictures it’s a good way to attract traffic. ok, marketing maven in me is coming out..lol!
Good luck — again! <3
I kind of think that is the problem with online dating… that it is too easy to discard a person in the search for that “one”. The slightest bump in the road can cause a person to look over there and decide to choose the easy path and either not deal with it or view it as a deal breaker. On the arguement that there are tons of other fish in the sea. Dating/relationships are hard and they require work and commitment.
Of course that doesn’t apply to first/second dates since those are occuring at a higher rate than normal due to the online feature because you are exposed to more people, some far outside of the realm that you would normally meet.
oooh good luck! i’ve heard some pretty great things about dating profiles actually.
oooo online dating. if anything, itll make for some great blog posts!
Kelly Turner
http://www.groundedfitness.com
We are so consumerist aren’t we? We treat dating like shopping now too…. I tried internet dating briefly last year but I didn’t get past window shopping…
Online dating. Sigh. I kind of miss it.
I am sorry it didn’t work with that guy. Totally sucks.
Online dating is weird that way. Its like trying to shop for a mate.
I SOOO feel you on the “is he enough?” thing. I have been seeing three guys right now and if I had met them elsewhere and not online, I would be crazy about them. But since there’s so much choice, I just keep doubting…
I totally agree. I always found myself wanting to mesh together a few of the guys into one, and then they *just might* work haha.