i do like hanging out just with my female friends though, and it’s because i feel like we (really them more than me imo) act differently when guys are around. they are less likely to be goofy and talk about private or girly things. but it’s rare that men are forbidden from joining us. just this week, i got my girlfriends together for dinner and to go to rock n shop. i didn’t invite any guys, but when one of the women wanted to bring her boyfriend, i wasn’t like “no, he can’t come because he has a penis.” but it did change the vibe of the evening.

Im totaling and posting today!

What does that mean? Like, even though I’ve said that I don’t think of them that way, if my guy friends think I’m hot there’s always the possibility I’ll act on it?”"

No, it means that he thinks that your guy friends would jump in the sack with you if it appeared to be possible. He is probably of the opinion that they aren’t interested if you aren’t offering.

“My response to that question is, “Maybe they do [think I’m hot]. But if so, it’s never a big deal because we don’t go around talking about it and they never try to act on it.””

At least a few of them never got the sack to ask you out/make a move. It’s just the law of averages.

1. When I’m in a relationship, does my partner have a problem with my other friendships? I’ve had two relationships that I can think of, over the years, that didn’t take off because of this. In both cases, it wasn’t anything specific to me, but a general thing that the woman in question couldn’t accept her mate having lots of female friends. There was a lot I liked about both women, but in the end I think it was best: we couldn’t really have lasted with that sort of unfounded jealousy.

2. When I’m not in a relationship, does the presence of my female friends deter women who might be interested in me (or I in them)? That’s definitely more of an issue. I’ve often found that women stay clear, assuming that the woman I’m hanging out with is my girlfriend. And it’s sometimes hard to dissuade them from that belief even if I approach them directly. On the other hand, I’m not going to stop going out with my women friends for that reason.

I figure that the best I can do is to make it clear to potential romantic partners that my friends are my friends, and that’s all. And there will always be those who think that men and women can’t be “just friends” together. ‘s not true.

The majority of my friends are male, so I make a point of letting that be known upfront when I start dating a guy. I wouldn’t want him to give up his female friends, either, just because we started dating!