Comments on: Eloping: An Alternative to Tradition

By: Kbee

Kbee — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 02:40:41 +0000

Ah, this post was a wonderful breath of fresh air. Having been engaged for over (eep!) 8 months now, with no wedding plans in sight, I’m sure you can imagine the pressures. I just simply do not (DO. NOT.) want to do the whole big pomp and circumstance ordeal of a wedding. But I want to do… something. Really dug your arm-in-arm on the beach scenario. Feels good not to feel so alone!

By: Onely

Onely — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 10:50:32 +0000

Absolutely; elope and save the money for scuba diving in Belize. If your friends and family want to participate in your “big day” then you can post the pictures online.

Just living in sin would be fun too, though.
= ) CC

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 22:23:13 +0000

I want to elope. I just don’t think all that big wedding stuff is for me, it never has and probably never will.

Send me to Vegas, the local courthouse or the beach with just us two and I’d be just as happy.

By: classic jen

classic jen — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 15:42:44 +0000

You know someone who eloped (sort of) â€“ me! Well, we didnâ€™t really elope but we didnâ€™t have a wedding either â€“ we got married at the courthouse (in normal courthouse-appropriate clothes) with just immediate family only. Then we all went out a nearby Chinese restaurant for lunch. The entire wedding cost about $200: about $75 for the license and the clerk who performed the ceremony and about $125 for lunch for 13 people.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 10:02:17 +0000

Well I actually LOVE event planning and details, so if money was no object, the planning of a big wedding would actually be pure fun for me. But of course money is a MAJOR object, so I can see both sides of the coin.

I would be totally okay with an elopement, but I think it would be so hurtful to my close friends & family to leave them out of the celebration. So I think I’ll opt for a fun wedding with a small number of guests when the time comes.

By: Anna

Anna — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 07:35:17 +0000

If I’m ever to get married, it’ll be a quiet thing at city hall with no guests but the necessary witnesses.

I’m like you on the whole planning thing. I’d drive myself up the walls with having to make all those decisions and I would feel bad about spending that much money on a party… Being an adult, I also find that it’s totally my decision if and how I get married. No way would my mother’s opinion matter to me. If she wanted a big party to invite her friends and relatives to, she could arrange another party. Herself.

I’m impressed with you saying that you don’t mind listening to brides-to-be’s stories on their upcoming weddings. I’m battling that one. I’m yet to find a bride-to-be who isn’t complaining about all the work… I don’t think there’s any reason to complain about the amount of work when you yourself decide the limits. But maybe that’s just me…

By: Mandi

Mandi — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:42:58 +0000

A very good friend of mine will be getting married in September. The only problem is that every time she thinks about actually planning the wedding, she freaks out. So, her husband-to-be is happily taking care of all the details. Works out kinda nice, huh?

By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 17:31:13 +0000

I am so undecided on this one! I would love to have my family and friends there to see me get married and be there to party with us all night. However, I have never been able to envision my perfect wedding and I would have no idea where to start and what I would actually want. There are way too many choices to be made. I’d get all worked up and stressed out just trying to pick colors. Then I’d worry if I made the right choices up until the wedding was over. Besides all of the choices, I can’t justify spending thousands of dollars for one day that will go by at the speed of light anyway. If I could figure out a way to go inexpensive, low-stress, beautiful and accommodating to our family and friends I would do that. Otherwise, I am totally open to eloping.

By: Sagan

Sagan — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 17:10:03 +0000

Yep, I’d elope! I think a problem that can potentially come from having a big wedding is that it becomes all about that- the wedding and the party. People sometimes forget that there’s a whole marriage to follow. And maybe that’s why so many people divorce…

By: LJ

LJ — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 16:34:04 +0000

I don’t think I’d elope. As much as I like focusing on the celebration, I feel this late in life, I’ve earned the right to the big shin-dig. And I like all that details stuff. I think my parents would be disappointed if I didn’t eventually do something along these lines, although it might save more money in the long run.