Monthly Archives: March 2009

Renting vs Buying: What’s the Right Choice?

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer.)

I have several friends and family members who are close to my age and own their own homes. Whenever this happens — when a new person joins the home-owning ranks — I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel a twinge of house-envy. The thing is, though, despite the allure that homeownership holds, most of my friends and similarly-aged co-workers are still renting.

There was an article in the New York Times not long ago that talked about the increasing number of single women in the home-buying market (the article referred to these women as WINKs — or more specifically, “Women with Income, No Kids”). Dumb acronyms aside, I like the fact that nationwide, over the last decade “the number of unmarried women buying housing of any type increased 20 percent.” And just last year in New Jersey, 45 percent of all condominium buyers were women in this category. That’s awesome.

As a single woman who likes the area where she lives, the thought of buying my own place (most likely a condo or townhouse since yard maintenance can go to hell, in my opinion) has certainly entered my mind. The biggest problem is the money factor.

The choice about whether to rent or buy is completely different depending on where you live (I addressed this last year in a post called Desirable Locations, Expensive Prices: Is Buying a Home Impossible?). A friend of mine just bought a townhouse in Richmond, Virginia, but he paid much less for it than anything comparable I could buy in the metro Washington, DC area — and we only live 100 miles apart. Along the same lines, the two-story, three-bedroom house that my sister and her fiance bought — also located in Richmond — cost less than what the condo I’m renting would go for if it was sold.

The difference between these two (relatively close) locations does seem a little crazy sometimes. I know that if I moved back to Richmond — a city where I lived for eight years — there’s a good chance I could buy my own place. But I like where I am. This location is working for me for right now, even if all the cute little condos I come across for sale are all over $350,000. (For a one-bedroom. Which means I wouldn’t be sharing the cost with a female roommate, like I do right now.)

According to the same New York Times article, there’s also been a rise in single women buying a place together, living as roommates and splitting the bills — just like they would if they were renting. While it seems like a good idea and people are able to make it work, Dawn at Homebuying Info reminds us that there are a number of things you should ask yourself before you take that step.

Most of the time — when I’m not having house-envy, that is — my renting situation is perfectly fine with me. I’ve read a number of “rent vs. buy” articles that list the pros and cons of buying your own place as opposed to renting, and I can understand both sides. While it would be nice to have something I could call my own, there are also advantages to being a renter.

As a renter, it’s much easier for me to change my location. Even though I live in Alexandria, Virginia, I could move to Arlington and still have roughly the same commuting distance to my job in DC. After I spent a year in Arlington, I could move to Bethesda, Maryland — same commuting distance. Or maybe I’d choose to move into DC itself. The options are pretty much limitless.

I also like the fact that I’m not responsible for fixing anything (or paying someone to fix it) if something goes wrong. When our garbage disposal broke, and then our bathroom sink stopped up, we called our landlord. The grass outside gets cut by someone the property management hires. Our power bill is included in our rent, as well as water/sewer/trash removal, so that limits the amount of separate bills I have to pay every month.

While there are advantages to renting, I know that the thought of buying something isn’t going to go away. I’m sure it will happen at some point — whether it’s here in this area or somewhere else. Until that happens, though, I’ll enjoy my perks as a renter. It’s pretty stress-free, and that’s something I certainly can’t complain about.

What are your thoughts on renting vs. buying?

Related Reading:

Condohope is on the side of pro-renting. The writer is talking about buying vs. renting in Vancouver, but the argument is the same as others I’ve read.

It’s time the levees broke on Vancouver’s ownership myth. A hard look at the numbers shows renting is vastly superior to the choice of becoming a homeowner. How do I know this? Because every month, I have $1,500 more in my pocket than I would have if I owned the same, brand-new apartment that I live in. I’m also off the hook for any building deficiencies, maintenance or the risk of being unable to move out when I want to. If I get a job somewhere else and need to relocate, the state of the market has no effect on me. In short, I have the fullest level of control over my lifestyle. Without owning.

Katherine at Who Invented Roses: When something goes wrong with her place, she likes that she can pick up the phone and call her landlord. She tried to talk her little sister out of buying a condo, but her sister didn’t listen. Now her sister is making extensive calls to their father whenever she needs help with something.

Cara O’Brien wishes she could find a place online where she could get answers to the questions she has — one of which is, “How do I buy a home?”

Blunt Money breaks down the types of expenses and upkeep you can expect when buying a home, as opposed to being a renter.

Random Friday, Ver. 91

1) I’m a good friend…but so is he

Last night I stood in the rain for over 30 minutes, waiting for my friend Crazy Tripp to emerge from his workplace. (The problem: his boss called him in for a last-minute request; his cell phone was in his car so he wasn’t getting my text messages; he didn’t have any way to contact me; etc.) I knew that he knew I was out there, so…I waited. And then he arrived — as I knew he would — and he paid for my drinks to make it up to me, so it was all good.

2) Lioness, The Film

I saw a documentary this week at the Library of Congress. I’d seen something about it online a few months back — I don’t remember where — but when I randomly read about the film screening on DCist, I knew I wanted to check it out.

The film is called Lioness. It’s about the first group of women to be involved in direct ground combat (in this case, in Iraq). The men were conducting raids to catch insurgents, and when they entered someone’s home they needed to search everyone inside. The female troops were brought in to search the women, which sounds like a relatively easy task — but keep in mind, they had to travel the same dangerous roads to get there, and were often involved in shootouts.

It was a good film; kind of slow at times when they followed four of the women in their daily, “back in the U.S.” lives, but definitely interesting. It’s one of those things you watch and can’t help thinking how different your life is from that of somebody else.

3) Should I stay or should I go?

So I was thinking about going to Russia. And then I found someone who said she was willing to go with me (my aunt Cathy; I lived with her and my uncle in California for a year after I graduated from college in ’05). But in order to get the low price on the flight, I would have had to book it by last night and make the trip before the end of April. While that’s still a month away, I didn’t know until yesterday that I would have to apply for a travel visa as well…which requires an application, and a passport-sized photo, and a trip to the Russian embassy (or some kind of online process if you live too far away).

I’m sure the process wouldn’t be all that complicated, but it seemed like too much to deal with in a short period of time. So…I’m looking for something else.

4) I just don’t think I can

Zipcode asked me to go to a Bret Michaels show next week (most recently of Rock of Love fame). While I feel, in a way, that I should support a friend’s request (and also that it would be an extremely blog-worthy experience), I seem to be opposed to paying this man $35 to see his show.

5) This weekend

Tomorrow is the annual Smithsonian Kite Festival. I’ve never been before, and I think it would be a cool thing to see, and I could cross off #22 from my 101 Things list. But…it’s supposed to rain! Is it possible to fly kites in the rain? And even if it is possible, would I want to stand outside in it? Will have to ponder this further.

Happy weekend, everyone!

Checking In With Your Fitness Resolutions

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer.)

The beginning of January is undoubtedly the most popular time to make fitness and weight-loss resolutions. But if you think about it, trying to kick-start your motivation at the beginning of a new year doesn’t make a lot of sense. At least that’s the case if you’re anything like me — the first few months of the year are when I tend to fall into my moody stage. It’s the middle of the winter, I’m anticipating the warmth and colors of spring…in other words, it’s not the best time for me to motivate myself.

Motivation is certainly not impossible during poor weather. You just have to work a little harder in order to find it. And on the plus side, as Kelly Gonzalez points out, if you can get yourself to work in (and withstand) less-than-desirable conditions, the more-desirable weather conditions will seem that much better. Kelly said:

I remember the day after Christmas in 2007 very well. It was day one of training for the Boston Marathon. It was the beginning of many cold, pitch-black early morning winter runs. Training through the coldest time of year may have actually made my runs a bit easier, because it took more motivation to throw myself into winter winds and below freezing temperatures then it did to actually complete a long run.

I didn’t make any specific fitness resolutions in January — I think I’m kind of opposed to doing that simply because it’s the beginning of the year. (Yes, I’m ornery like that sometimes!) But lately I’ve been feeling like I’ve been slacking off a bit.

In previous posts, I’ve talked about making fitness goals and maintaining motivation. However, writing about it is definitely easier than actually doing it. I never slacked off with my weight training, but cold and rainy weather (or various social activities after work and on weekends) kept me from getting outside as much as I have in the past.

I’m getting back on track. For me, the best way to kick myself in the pants — regardless of the time of year — is to realize I’ve reached a point where I don’t want to be (the waistband of a certain pair of pants feeling tighter than usual, for instance). But I’m not stressing about it. I know that warmer weather is right around the corner, and when it arrives I’ll be re-energized. I can already feel it happening.

BlogHer’s Good Health-athon is coming to an end. If you made any fitness resolutions at the beginning of the year, are you still thinking about them? Have you exceeded your expectations or fallen short? What holds you back from accomplishing your goals?

Related Reading:

Stacy from Stacy’s Random Thoughts says that the way to keep your New Year resolutions is a little bit of friendly competition. She said, “Here’s what works for me — I found a bunch of friends who also wanted to lose weight, and we’ve got a little competition going.”

Miss Ladybug is holding herself accountable to her resolutions by posting updates.

Shauna Reid from DietGirl recently posted a resolutions update, otherwise known as her “2009 Minimum Standards Agreement.”

My Relationship, Ten Years in the Future

(This is cross-posted at BlogHer.)

I was asked to answer this question: If you could picture yourself in a relationship 10 years from now, what do you hope it looks like?

I’m a few months shy of my 29th birthday, so in ten years I’ll be approaching 40. It seems kind of crazy to think so far ahead, wondering what my life will be like and what kind of relationship I’d like to have, but I know it’s not really all that long in the grand scheme of things.

When I start this train of thought, thinking about what my future might be like, I first think about of the things I’ve done in the past ten years — all the places I’ve been, and people I’ve met, and words I’ve written, and emotions I’ve experienced, and especially how I’ve grown and matured as a person. When I think about my past, I feel a sense of anticipation for all the things that the future is sure to hold. I hope that when I’m in my late 30s, I’ll look back at Zan in her late 20s and be just as content with the choices I made in that ten-year span as I am right now, with the things I’ve done thus far.

When it comes to picturing myself in a relationship ten years from now, the first thing that comes to mind is a question: Will I be in a relationship? But this is an example of my rational side that perpetually claws its way through — because, sure, we all know there are no guarantees about anything. I know that I hope I won’t be in a relationship if it’s not making me happy. As I’ve said, I have no problem with reclaiming the word “spinster.”

But let’s say that I get to choose my ideal “best possible relationship scenario.” In that case, the word that immediately comes to mind is adored. I want to adore my partner, and I want him to feel the same way about me. I hope that when I reach my late 30s, we’ve already done all sorts of traveling, both domestic and abroad, and maybe even lived overseas for a while, and laughed a lot, and respected the other’s viewpoint even when we’ve disagreed. I hope, having known this person for years, that I’ll still desire to put my hands all over him at every opportunity.

When I reach my late 30s, I expect that I’ll have a child. I’ve had a feeling for quite a few years that I’ll have a child one day, but it won’t happen until I’m in my mid-30s. Thirty-five seems like a good age. I could be completely wrong about that, but whenever I think about it, it just seems right. Some women want to be a mother early, other women not at all — others, like me, just want to wait a while.

Over the past few years, I’ve written posts about my dating and relationship preferences: what I look for in a partner, how what I originally thought I was looking for has adapted, and my thoughts about the single life in general. It’ll be interesting, if I decide to look back at this post in ten years, to see what things have changed.

Here are some of the topics I’ve written about recently:

What does it take for two people to want to be exclusive at the same time?

Relationship Habits: Do You Repeat the Same Mistakes?

Choosing to elope instead of having a huge wedding.

What Do You Look For in a Partner? (Hint: It May Change.)

Looking back at dating experiences in 2008.

Do Your Male Friends Impact Your Dating Life?

I refuse to ever go back to being in a position where I feel like my confidence is being stomped on.

My version of writing about a past break-up.

After National Singles Week, My Thoughts About Being Single

It’s important to take time to evaluate your life on a periodic basis.

You’re a Single Female? You Can’t Possibly Be Happy.

I Would Rather Be Single Than…

Related Reading:

Susan Mernit at BlogHer wrote about dreaming about her relationship ten years from now.

Her Bad Mother: 10 Things To Do Before You Become A Parent

CNN: Four reasons why online dating is recession proof

Huffington Post: 5 Easy Ways To Serve Your Relationship

Random Friday, Ver. 90

1) Shocking!

My friend Tripp convinced me to meet him at a bar in Old Town last night. At one point, acting crazy (as usual), he was pretending to…errmmm…grab my chest. (Pretending!) Just as a buttoned-up looking older lady was walking by, I slapped his hand and said loudly, “Don’t touch my boob!” According to Tripp (the lady was behind me at the time), the look on her face was priceless. Shocked, jaw dropped, the whole deal. Luckily for him, she decided not to come to my rescue.

2) I was bummed

Remember how excited I was at the thought of watching elephants walk down the streets of D.C.? Well, apparently those crazy creatures walk a lot faster than I thought. Yes, that’s right — even though I knew they were coming, and I set a reminder for myself, and I knew exactly what time the parade was starting — I missed them! I thought it would take longer for them to reach the Verizon Center than it actually did, so by the time I got there they were already inside.

3) Random Twitter

Since I’ve started using Twitter again on a pretty regular basis, I thought I’d share some of the highlights from the past week for my non-Twitter followers:

3/19: I saw a non-stop flight deal from D.C. to Moscow for only $440 round trip. I’d love to go, but I’ve been advised not to go by myself — and I’d really prefer to make a trip like that with someone else anyway. So unless a random travel volunteer/partner steps forward, I guess that’s out…

3/18: A co-worker asked me if I’d like to join an amateur soccer team. The only problem (in addition to the fact that I’ve never played soccer in my life)? The games are played on Saturday nights. My response to him was: “Hello, I’m single and I DATE. Saturday night = no.”

3/17: I’m hoping to take a trip to Charleston, SC to see a friend of mine sometime in the next few weeks. Before that, though, I’m pretty sure I’ll be taking a weekend trip to Philadelphia with my friend J.J. Even though I don’t live far from Philly, I’ve never been — I’ve been wanting to visit for a long time, so I hope it works out.

3/17: I was introduced to the term “malicious wounding.” In an attempt to defend himself, my almost-21-year-old brother ended up breaking the finger of this guy he knows (long story). The guy pressed charges and sent cops to pick up my brother in the middle of the night, which means my brother spent the night in jail before he was released. What drama!

Happy weekend, everyone!